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I came across an article in (ugh) People *but they totally lifted a Reddit AITA thread for the article in the first place*, but the pro-FDS message is just too damned empowering & top-shelf Queen level shit to discount just because of the source. And tbh, I am trying to take encouragement that stealthily a pro-FDS message ends up in some households (by nature of the demographic of the typical consumer of imho such a trashy tabloid-adjacent supermarket rag) that could greatly benefit from even the tiniest of cracks in the armor of the insidious psychological delusion that is the patriarchy, .
From the People article: (shared under fair use doctrine, original link posted below)
Woman's Boyfriend Shoved Her Face Into Her Birthday Cake While His Family Cheered. Now They Are Calling Her 'Violent'
...."the Redditor booked a private room at a restaurant to celebrate her and her 38-year-old boyfriend’s birthdays together (which is something they had done in the past). For this year’s celebration, she paid to rent the room and planned to pay for half of the food. Her boyfriend, Charles, handled paying for the cake."...
(note: clearly she's still transitioning from Pick-me tendencies by paying a red cent for a combined bday thing, but she eventually grows a backbone & shows promise at the end. I only hope she's truly evolving, internalizes the lesson, reviews all the inevitable red flags from the scrote that she ignored up until then with a great deal of introspection so she can level up from the experience!)
..."The poster described how she and her boyfriend took turns posing with the birthday cake and that when she was pretending to blow out the candles Charles attempted to push her face into the cake.
“I was holding the cake when he pushed my face towards the cake, so I tried to fight it. His family started cheering 🤢, and he arched over my body and forced me to bend over until my face smashed the cake,” the Reddit user says, adding that she had gotten her eyebrows, eyelashes and hair done for the party. “My friends tried to get him off me, and he resorted to plastering cake and frosting on my hair.”"...
..."She writes that she broke up with Charles after the fiasco despite loving him. “He's convinced that I never loved him. He acknowledged what he did was wrong but is adamant that his family hates me for slapping him and that it's my fault,” she explains, continuing that he pointed out that he paid for the cake (*emphasis added) and that he wanted her to apologize to his mother."...
As if him paying for the 'weapon' somehow justifies his 'right' to use it to humiliate her. 🤬
And here's her Queen move.
👑..."“I told him…he was so aggressive and so focused on making his family laugh at my expense that I just realized he's not good enough and that I've lost my confidence to be seen with him in public, because I don't know what else he will pull out of his a–,” she recalls."...
Girlfriend got the 'ick' and now he's done! 🤣And yet they still wonder why we'd choose the bear! 😒
His family cheered? No wonder he's such an asshole. He was raised by a family of assholes.
I can almost understand people standing around awkwardly, not sure how to respond when they see something like this. Like "not sure if this is a show they both agreed to put on? Should I do something to stop this or would that make me a rude guest?" But cheering and encouraging this crap? No.
At least she has friends who are willing to defend her. Those friends are keepers.
It's like the cakes with the woman dragging a man by the collar to the alter.
How much can you hate your wife the very first day of marriage? You'd think for a bunch of people who don't have to deal with plagues and wars, we'd let ourselves get along. Especially when men are CHOOSING to get married.
Yeah cutting ties with their baby is so violent…. Well my golden rule is I only stay with you if you act like a husband. Would fictional men like Gomez do that? No so why allow it in the real world?