Yesterday I told Texas lawyer guy that his reservations gave *me* reservations so time to say we’re done. I told him I genuinely liked him as a friend and found him good company and really funny.
What niggled at me was how whatever reservations he had just weren’t brought up and discussed. It felt off, big time. I’m all about getting everything out in the open to see if we are on the same page. The fact that we had a pleasant phone convo and that text convo went on as usual while the “reservations” just got swept under the rug didn’t sit well with me at all.
Yesterday we had planned a call but then he said he wasn’t feeling good so later. I was fine with that; I had stuff I wanted to do anyway and wanted to keep busy since yesterday would have been my dad’s 92nd birthday. It was the first birthday without him so I was a little fragile. Not weepy just low-level grieving a first.
I get that he doesn’t owe me any explanation but I’m still relieved I ended it. Bringing up a concern and not addressing it does not work for me. He was also a state away, 2.5 hours so I doubt we would have seen each other regularly, maybe once a week, twice a month? No thanks, that’s not dating and after late second husband, I knew I never wanted another LDR.
Any of you ladies ever been confronted with this, where a man said he wasn’t sure or had reservations? I told my sister and best friend, if he was trying to make me chase or prove my worth, then that exploded in his face. I’m convinced if there is enough uncertainty to mention during the first month of knowing each other, then it needs a conversation and a decision about whether or not to continue. Mentioning it then never defining what the issue was? Spare me any games.
I’d appreciate any and all stories of uncertainties and reservations from your side or his, and how things were handled. Thanks.
And can I just say that this Sunday is just a little brighter because I am completely free?😀