Deleted Hinge. Lasted about two months total. It wore me out, having to vet constantly and STILL have low value interactions.
Sure the interactions were quite brief if I determined they were lv but it still wore on me, being asked to coffee dates after 2-3days of chatting. Although minimal effort/attention was given it still required effort.
I kept vetting, unmatching, deleting. And I took it as a strong sign to leave when Hinge had my step brother in one of the "Stand Out" profiles. I was truly grossed out. Not only are we estranged but he is vv low value. It shocked me to see how normal he looked. He got lucky with some genes and is tall and would be considered attractive by most women unfortunately. And he'd be in the category of well dressed, very educated pool on Hinge which is a small pool and still infested with so many lv men. And I wondered how many normal looking men are like my brother. He's a Handmaids type misogynist with self hating beliefs. And a pathological liar and generally awful person.
I also unmatched/blocked about 4men in the last few days. It's almost impossible to build a roster with such lv pickings. The last straw was this guy who lied that he was open to dating outside his race/ethnicity. We had a good first date but I had my suspicions. We talked after the date, I pointedly told him that seeing as he's the first son of immigrants I reckon there were expectations. He assured me otherwise. And then I sensed a slow fade- he was "sick" on the day we were supposed to go out. Anyway, he finally fessed up and I blocked and deleted without responding.
But I honestly have a lot on my plate anyway and even with minimal effort it wasn't worth it. I kept deleting unmatching constantly. When you internalize FDS principles lv behavior is much more glaring, but even pre FDS i was/am very feminist, was never a fan of libfem principles, but FDS provided the affirmation and clarity I needed to stand by them.
Last straw was yesterday afternoon. Started chatting with this match. There was very light flirtatious banter at the beginning, and he seemed okay. I wanted to have a call in app and said so. Tbh I wanted to vet him more effectively before wasting even a day on him. He waited for me to call, red flag. He started negging shortly after. I was so immediately repulsed. Hung up and unmatched.
There were men who seemed to have hv traits initially but failed very quickly after a little vetting. I literally did not find one man who passed my vetting for up to a 4wks in two months.
Tbh I take full responsibility for this, because I went back on OLD against my better judgment. Sure maybe it works for some people but those are lottery winning odds. Online dating is bad for many reasons with very few upsides if any.
-commodification of women
-fosters laziness lv behavior from men
-low trust/credibility platform
-gave men unfettered and undeserving access to me.
I'm done. I have to go out if I want to meet people and I think that's for the best.