I'm convinced that scrotes who love shitting on their girlfriend's hobbies/ interests are doing it as a form of negging. They want you to feel insecure about the stuff you like so that you'll be easier to manipulate. Or they want you to feel indebted to them for being with you "in spite of your cringiness" and less likely to dump their asses if/once more red flags start popping up.
An example of this would be my new friend at work. She's a casual aquaintance, but we're both lovers of Taylor Swift and so of course we hit it off. She's the one person who might be as passionate a Swiftie as I am. However, she recently mentioned to me that her boyfriend is a massive hater who loves to dunk on Taylor's "overrated" music despite knowing she's a Swiftie herself. At least once a week, he sends her some stupid meme about Dumb White Women and their Dumb Hypercapitalistic Obsession with supporting Taylor's rerecorded albums. Keep in mind that my friend is White herself, and she's told him multiple times that the rerecordings feature additional songs that didn't make the cut for the first time around.
And she insists that he's just being playful, but I'm just out here wondering to myself why he's going out of his way to make his girlfriend feel embarrassed and self conscious about something he knows she feels really passionate about. What exactly is "funny" about insulting your girlfriend for her music tastes every chance you get? Like if he thinks Taylor's fans are so dumb, why is he dating one in the first place?
I mean my friends and family have plenty of hyperfixations I personally don't see the appeal in, but I dont make fun of them for it because that's just mean, and regardless of my opinions, those are still things that bring them joy
If I had a nickel for every time a scrote say something nasty and excused is as "It'S jUSt a JoKe" I'd be filthy rich lol.
Your new friend is in an abusive relationship and she's in denial about it. A HVM would buy her merchs, tickets and albums, not ridiculing her for liking Taylor Swift. Glad she has you to share her interest with. Men are so butthurt Swift exists as a beautiful successful woman with a ton of female fans and that her music resonates with many women and girls instead of pandering to their sorry asses.
Maybe mention Why Does He Do That? to your friend?
It's amazing how men will date women and hate us passionately at the same time.
God they always try to tie it back to the "capitalism is bad" argument to act intellectually superior instead of just admitting they are misogynists that hate things women like.
I genuinly despise men who shit on women's hobbies. You're right these dudes hate their gf/wives and are coming from a place of meanness. She needs to wake up and dump his ass. He's negging her.
Ovarit user said it best: putting 'white' in front of woman is now the get out a jail free card for misogynists.
If he's picking on her just because, that's not cool. If she constantly tells him how great her music is, that can get old, too. Is he doing this in response to her actions, or no?
I went to the movie and was amazed at her ability to command the stage. Amazing performer. Not a huge fan of the music itself, but there were a few songs I liked a lot. Her country music in particular. Fun time.