I know the title is misleading, but hear me out, ladies. For the past couple of weeks, I've been seeing this potential HVM. We met on OLD (I know, I know). And he's been treating me well so far. Taking me to luxurious places, being generous with his time, energy, and money, etc. basically, he was ticking all the right check points. That is, until he asked me to go to a hotel with him 💀.
I told him that I don't feel ready to have sex yet and he said that he respects that. I suggested going to a more secluded place where we can make out a bit (like we did last time), and he refused because he "doesn't want to stop himself again". I asked him if he's always had full penetrative sex the first time with his exes, and he said yes. So no slow and passionate making out, cuddling, etc. getting to know each other. It always had to lead to a full on penetrative sex or some sort of release (for him) at least.
My heart sunk. I told him that I'm not ready to be sexual until after we're in a committed relationship and even then it wouldn't be immediatelly. He said that he cannot imagine being in a relationship without having sex. So we basically got into the whole "who came first? The chicken or the egg?" spiel until we parted ways.
Like, I know I should be glad that he vetted himself out pretty soon. I should be proud of upholding my boundaries and not sleeping with him. Yet... I feel so abanded and dissapointed?!? Like I've said, except for that, he was pulling all the green flags and was seemingly HV. It also makes me feel super hopeless regarding the future... He said that he regrets not asking me about it sooner, but I said I thought it was pretty normal? Like, I didn't have sex with my ex 6 months into the relationship and he could wait. Are all modern men just broken pornsick individuals? Thank god I didn't sleep with him, but man ☹️.
Eight years ago? I wonder how the now-21 year old is doing today. The advice in the comments was insane