So, first of all im 🏳️🌈
That being said, me and J (xy) have been doing everything but having sex. I have a toxic work place and my home life isnt much better and ive let this guy kinda sweep me off my feet for the last few months.
Hes a very giving person. Hes replaced my phone, buys me food, even introduces me to other gay women (who reject me ofc). Our relationship has kept me sane for a minute now. All with zero expectations of sex from him. He's persued several girls while this has been going on and he gets rejected too. We kinda bond over our lack of female love/attention. Its been a theme, to say the least.
Well last night i get off work and head to his place. We're in bed together and he randomly grabs my stomach and says
"I think youre the biggest girl ive cuddled with"
And i shrug it off because im...not big lmao im 120 lb, 5'4
So i say "My metabolism is great for as much as i eat."
And he said "your stomach says otherwise."
This has like completely knocked me on my ass. Hes teased me about how im always hungry and im "fat" before but last night was too real.
I never wanna see him again now actually. But we're so involved now, idk how to cut him off. He also lives right by my job and can walk in anytime and confront me. Hes invested in me and given me a lot for the past like 6 months, and his birthday is around the corner and we had plans and all that. Tf do I do?
Anyways straight girls dont fuck these men! Even the gay girls are out here getting emotionally curbed stomped. Oof
What do you mean "what do I do?" What the fuck do you think you do. Block and delete him. Immediately. He's the worst. Also, wtf. Cuddle buddy? Why?! Stand up girl. Omg.
Well, now you know why no women want him lol.
He negged you. By no means you're fat. Even if you have a fat roll on your belly, it's because you need to protect your reproductive organs and potential baby. Its a cushion.
Fashion and fitness industry keep on telling us we need to have flat or even reverse bump stomach, visible hip bones but it kills our feminine hormones. I can't imagine how many women in 20 years will suffer greatly from osteoporosis because they were excessive dieting and exercising in their youth.
Back to the topic - the reason a man negs you is because he knows you're waaaaaay out of his league. Way out. That means he can do two things - better himself to get in your league - long and laborous process and we all know most of them are too lazy. Or ... he can neg you so you think you belong to his league.
Leave at the first sign of direspect.
Your entire relationship sounds fucked up. You cuddle but aren't together but he hooks you up with women he wants you to hook up with.
You've never read the handbook. Another stupid post.
It sounds like your self esteem is trashed, I would say definetly work on that above all else. Find the resources and actually do the work.
And what do you mean by your home life? Do you live with your parents? how old are you? Anyway, women in your position: lonely, sad, with low self esteem are ripe for the picking for scrotes. So lonely you will basically take anything. Please see how codependent and damaging this behavior actually is, there are so many other things you can focus on and spend your time doing, the world is huge. And if so every girl rejects you, my guess is you have some work to do on yourself.
This scrote is not just "giving", he is grooming you and in his mind investing in a future fwb, and its already working as you are clearly feeling guilty about cutting ties with him or saying no. You seem really young but you should know hooking up with a lesbian is like some sort of prize medal for scrotes. Joining lesbian sex is some disgusting rapey wet dream for them. I can only imagine what goes through his head as his eventual 'reward' for connecting you with girls... it's not that hard to be 'nice'for a few months for such a reward, please dont read too much into that or think hes not a scrote.
Dont separate slowly, that is literally the worst thing you can do. Rip it off like a bandaid. Cancel the birthday party and stop contacting/responding to him. Just say youre not feeling this anymore, no long explanations or calling out his neg so he can groom someone better next time. If he comes to your job say you cant talk about it there and never contact him.
He should go hug a Twink cause he gay af
Sorry not sorry if a male has something against lower belly fat that protects the uterus he has not the right instincts
It is like a male saying that having tits or ass is being fat
No you creepy idiot that's how real women are
Go fap to twinks you creepy a**hole
5'4, 120 is fat???
Oh HELL NO. You will be glad looking back that you didn't spend any more time with this guy. Please Block this trash bag
I don’t know you, but I don’t believe you’re gay. You want male attention, affection, and physicality. That is called heterosexual behavior. He doesn’t have to stick his penis inside of you for you to be hetero or bisexual. I used to be like you. There’s nothing wrong with what you want, but you have to stop denying yourself of it with a lie. If you’re honest with yourself about what you want, you won’t be in the situation to be disrespected like that by a male again. A man who is not your husband AND a HV provider and protector has no right touching you intimately anyways.