I don't want to post the link but there is a thread "somewhere," where a woman parked in a parking spot, and it angered another man who was intending to park there. She eventually gave into the man who angrily wanted her to move her car. She told the man that if he had asked her nicely, in the beginning, to move the car, she would have done it. So - the man asked "nicely" and she said yes. Should she have caved? I feel dumb asking this. Something tells me she should not have, but she was afraid of him getting violent if she didn't.
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Feeling a bit philosophical now, buckle up ;) I mean... sometimes there are more nuanced options in life than just "right" and "wrong". I find this to be one of those cases. The woman in the parking lot clearly did what she thought was best for her in that particular moment. She probably didn't have much time, so she did a quick assesment in her head and acted accordingly. It's practically impossible to predict an outcome that might have happened if she had reacted differently because we don't have a chrystal ball. Both parties in that story got their parking spaces and the man didn't get violent so I consider that a positive outcome.
I also want to add that safety always comes first! Sometimes caving in really is the best option. There's no use fighting over trivial things because of principles if that puts our life in danger.
In this case I think that the woman was very clever: she didn't mirror the man's aggression BUT taught him a lesson at the same time. She managed to both calm that aggressive/angry man down and get him to ask nicely in the end. That is incredibly difficult and I think that the woman did a fantastic job! So yeah, in short: in my opinion the woman did the right thing, absolutely.
Not entirely relevant, but here is a story.
I was at a sporting event the other day and the man in front of me had a cap on with the peak angled quite high. It was hindering my vision so I asked him nicely to remove it (we were under a roof - there was no need to wear a hat). Of course he was a bald scrote. He removed it wordlessly and then turned back to the match and shook his head for about 5 minutes in the most passive agressive move ever. Such a loser. Women appreciate it when people ask for things or favours nicely. Men don't - it's just a power move when they ask us to do so - they CANNOT STAND being asked to do anything by a woman.
She fucked up.
If we cave to them, they'll treat all of us like this.
Keep your spot, dial 911 if he harassed. Get his plate number on the way out in case he does something funny.
Well, unfortunately, this is the best way to deal with situations like this since men are dangerous. They might have a gun, or try to get revenge if you don't give up your spot.
I didn't mean to upset anyone. Just wanted your insight, if possible.