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I was called a *** hag recently, and it sparked a little rage, and made me think…
So, a few things, there was a time in my life where I was part of a community that had a large gay population. It was very easy to make friends and I connected to quite a few gay men. I learned that some gay men can be just as fucking touchy as straight men. In other words, they believe they can touch us, at will, particularly bc they are not sexually attracted to us. They grab our breast and slap our asses or try to kiss us with an open mouth. Even gay men treat us like objects. Why? Bc they are still men.
Do you know I had a drag Queen tell me that I don’t know how hard it is to be a drag Queen? That Asshole. He literally gets dressed up like me and then tells me I don’t know how hard it is.
In fact, when women behave flamboyantly were labeled as loud-mouth bitches. When men do it for fun, they are stars and everyone claps and cheers and throws money at them.
We are queens all day every day, but the only ones that can scream their fabulousness from the rooftops, with gleeful feedback, are men pretending to be women.
Women, we can say no. We can hold ALL men accountable. No, I’m not a *** hag (ugh), no you may not touch me and no you are not more of a Queen than me, nor will you ever be.
I have always had a connection to my local LGBT+ community. That being said, the only men who hate women more than straight men are gay men. I know the type of guys you're talking about, the ones who get a persecution complex when you criticize them for crossing a line. A lot of these guys do it for attention so the only way to get them away from you is to be the most boring person he ever met and grey rock 🪨 🪨 🪨 And when they get grabby push them hard as fuck away from you and yell loudly. Embaress men when they grab us.
Yessss!! Oml It's so annoying when women treat gays like they are so special type of man. I thought gay men were just men, their sexuality is just different, so we should treat them equally as men, right? Right!?! Gay men still have just as much rights, if not more due their easier access to women , as men in this patriarchy we live in. Men are still men in the patriarchy- whether they put on nail polish, identify as women, suck dick etc. ALL doesn't just mean straight men, some of these ladies need to knock it off. Women constantly allow them into our spaces assuming they are our allies by default, but the second they get home these gays laugh about how "fishy" it all was.
They can never escape their male socialization.
Do you remember the Golden Globes with Issac Mizrahi and Scarlett's Johansson?
For those who didn't watch it Isaac Mizrahi (fashion designer) was doing interviews for Golden Globes in 2006. Issac was there to talk about actresses' careers + fashion, .... but instead he sexually harassed them. He grabbed Scarlett's breast, asked actresses If they wearing undergarments, and checked to make sure they were wearing them (lifted garments, peeked in their tops, and put his face under their dresses).
I was watching it live when it happened. I couldn't believe that shit. It bothered me a lot...but I didn't have the words to describe it (I was 12).
The Scarlette one bothered me the most tho. It was all in her eyes. I too had that same eyes when grown me were harassing me on street.
The craziest part of the whole incident was that there was a debate over it. People were defending Issac "Oh, he's gay. He didn't mean it like that." "The public is going after him because he's gay. End of story"..... the early 2000s was a horrible time for female celebrities.
About 2 years ago after I dumped my husband, I started really evaluating the remaining people in my life and cutting the low value ones off at the knees. Of those was my uncle, a gay man. We had been close for years but it was a long build up of him treating me like an on demand therapist, calling me daily with his dramas but hardly reciprocating any emotional labor for a balanced relationship. Making comments about my body, demanding I wore certain outfits he chose to family events. Grabbing my phone to see a nude of my then husband. When I would give him pushback on his lack of boundaries he would jokingly call me a bitch and deflect. As I have gotten older I also have come to realize that gay men are still men but in many ways treat us worse than straight men. It’s misogyny just dressed up in gay snark. They’re still stepping on our backs and imitating our femininity to elevate themselves.
Yep, absolutely. Gay men are men primarily, everything else secondarily.
I never understood why gay men got a pass from women. They're even more misogynistic and racist than straight men. They will often suck up to straight men by criticising women.
I'll never forget, one of my gay friends was in town before my wedding. We went out with my now ex-husband and were walking back to the car. My gay friend spun me around, took me by the shoulders, and planted a kiss on me. And my ex-husband just nervously chuckled. I was stunned and felt massively uncomfortable. My gay friend wants to visit me again, and I have no desire to see him and re-live that.
I never met a gay men in my life. I did sometimes assume strangers to be gay but still idk. I only see it on the internet