Hi, these days I kind of vacillate as to what to post because of the atmosphere here, lol, but I feel that I need your opinion on whether this is a tacit way of trying to date me, or what. I'm so stressed that I don't want to lose my mind.
My dad has a friend from college (I hate how he stays friends with him, but he, my dad, is too much of a wuss to put his foot down); they go back 55 years. The friend is most definitely a scrote and is now in his mid 70s. He has an ex-wife that wants nothing to do with him. My dad told me that even when his friend was in his 60s, he tried to go into bars and fool women into thinking he was into his 20s. (I have no idea how this is even possible) Also, he once tried to marry a girl from the Philippines and who knows how young she might have been. He's not married now, so either the marriage didn't happen, or the divorce happened in 5 minutes. There was one time 20 years ago, when my dad could not pick me up from college, that the friend gave me a ride home, and I was nervous the whole time as I was going home, but thankfully nothing happened.
It had been many years since he and my dad had seen each other in real life, but now he (the friend) has been pushing and pushing to come over more often. The latest visit on Wednesday was a soul-crushing nightmare. The visit lasted 4 and a half hours. During most of that time (except to go to the bathroom), he talked non-stop motor-mouth about his religion (the same religion that my dad claims he is too) and would not even for a single second consider that anything might be either wrong or questionable about it. It was a religious holiday btw. My dad was pretending to agree with him on things because "if you express disagreement, someone could kill you." Sigh.
Anyway, I couldn't avoid being in the same room all the time, though if he comes again (puke), I'm going to work harder to do that. During a brief period of time in which I was in the room, he discussed how it would be helpful for me to go for a walk to relieve stress. I said that (I didn't realize what was coming after this, my bad) as women, it is unfair that we just can't go anywhere we please, but men can, and later he said that if I ever want to go on a walk, I can take him along with me to feel safer. I said "yeah" apathetically, but I thought WHAT? That sounds fucking weird. I mentioned how weirded out I was, to my dad, and he wasn't too phased by it. He said "Well, he took you home from school once." I swear, he never gets too critical of men from his religion/culture because he's so desperate to get me to marry one of them, but I never acquiesced to such marriage.
Anyway, is there any chance that when his friend offered to take a walk with me "so that I could feel safe," that he was thinking of it as a date and not telling me?
I wish I were not living with my father; he needs me very much as a caretaker role, but he himself is so toxic. If I leave, it could cause him to go to a nursing home and he could die a lot sooner there (however...never mind, you know what I might say to that).
I'm not sure if anyone is following my post anymore, but just in case, there has been a bizarre update.
The same guy called my dad earlier today (I might have been sleeping) and asked him if he could take me for a walk! 😮A few days ago I was having a hard time convincing my dad that this guy was acting weird with me but after today's phone call my dad was seething with revulsion at him. I do think my dad should have listened to me first (sadly, I think it's this thing of not wanting his children to be correct over him) but he's so shaken up by the man's audacity to call HIM and ask him the same damned thing. My dad allegedly told him that I don't want it and I don't approve but my dad thinks he'll call back. The guy is extremely pushy as a person. I told my dad to tell him that I already found a group of people to walk with but (and this is the part where my dad pisses me off, sadly) he doesn't want the man to know I'm "walking with other men" (which I wouldn't be doing, but it was supposed to be a cover). Dammit, I live in the west and was born here and yet we can't tell these guys that I'm walking with anyone of the opposite sex, when the guy HIMSELF is asking to walk with me - see the irony?!