Hey everyone! This is my first post here.
I met a guy on an online dating app. I am 32 and he is 40. We went on one date that went well. He paid and he dropped me off home (took transportation back to where I live and then he took an uber). Keep in mind that he does not drive or own a car and does not plan to do either. We live in a large city but he does not live near me. I would say commute wise, one hour To where he lives.
Before I discuss the second date, we are both childfree, we are both Democrats and we are both atheist so I‘m like great! Perfect. We also get along really well and we talk everyday, sometimes even for hours on the phone.
Prior to the second date, we agreed on going dutch but keep in mind, this was something he brought up and I was like well ‘what am I going to tell him? Tell him to pay?!’ So I agreed but I kinda felt manipulated to agreeing To that.
Anyways, we are at dinner and things so far are going well and the bill comes and something he said IRKED me. He said because he paid for the uber (from the park to the restaurant, which was $20 something), then we should go 50/50 Meaning to split the check literally down the middle instead of me paying for my share. He got more things than me and he’s the only who offered to pay the uber like wtf? I didn‘t want to argue so I paid whatever it was. But I was not happy about it.
Then I told him the comment bothered me and he apologized and gave me $20 back. I was then asking him if he can afford to date because dating costs money? backstory: my ex bf paid for everything and drove me everywhere but his conservatism and anger issues made us break up. So I kinda got used to a man paying for everything and driving me everywhere but this man cannot.
He also wasnt able to take me home. I ended up paying $50 something uber from the city to my house because I didnt wanna take the subway at 11pm.
Am I asking for too much? Is this man a LVM? He said he can’t afford to pay for things and he won’t drive either.
Please let me know if I should give him another chance.