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I’ve been thinking about a type of man that I keep seeing over and over: completely unmotivated, chronically unemployed (on benefits for years), lives in filth, doesn’t cook, clean, or contribute anything—but still expects a girlfriend, a family, and unconditional support. And somehow, the women in his life—especially his mother—treat him like he’s a precious little prince.
Why?
I knew someone like this personally. Completely incapable of doing anything for himself. All his benefit money went to junk food and drugs. He barely showered, wore tattered clothes, lived in a mess, and still moaned about how he wanted a girlfriend and didn’t understand why nobody wanted him. One day I finally snapped and told him: “Nobody will date you because you don’t bring anything to the table. You don’t even clean your own house. You say you want to be a house husband? Then act like it.”
Of course, he threw a tantrum and ghosted, but it really made me wonder: why is no one else saying this to guys like him?
What bothers me the most is that these men often get that entitled mindset from their moms. Moms who never let them struggle, never pushed them to be accountable, and instead reinforced the idea that women are there to care for them no matter what. They grow up with this fantasy that being a "nice guy" (read: passive and completely dependent) is enough.
And society lets it happen. People stay quiet out of politeness. And men are rarely called out for not pulling their weight emotionally or domestically—especially when their dysfunction is cushioned by a family system that enables it.
Let’s be clear: there’s a big difference between someone going through a hard time and someone who refuses to even try, who expects full care and attention while doing nothing in return.
Honestly, I think some of these men are the most delusional types I’ve ever encountered. And the enablers around them? Equally responsible.
Curious what others think—why is this still so normalized? Why are some moms raising men to believe they’re owed everything without doing anything?
My brother is a neck beard. I hate it. I always say I love my brother and I don’t wish any harm on him BUT I don’t like him as a person.
I’m not sure how it happened. Our dad was always in and out of our lives ans now we don’t really talk to him. Maybe that’s it. Because my mom didn’t baby him or coddle. No one really did.
He does have some flavour of neurodivergent. He was tested for all kinds of things as a kid. Lots of effort was put into making him independent etc. but he didn’t want to change it seemed.
He did seem to get it together a little and got himself a good job but he’s allegedly in therapy but he’s gotten worse since then and spends all his time online. I think that has something to do with it.
I personally think it’s spending time online and the communities you can find there. Also men dont listen to their mothers anyway. If she coddled him she’s wrong but if she holds him accountable she’s a bitch for doing that too.
Maybe if fathers stuck around men would be better.
I also believe there’s something massively wrong with the Y chromosome.
I had an uncle who was a neckbeard. Over the years, many, many people (e.g. teachers, neighbours, my grandfather, other relatives) tried to correct him and every single time, my pick me grandmother would undermine them and silence them. My father called out my uncle's bad behaviour many times and not only was he not listened to, he was also disinherited. (My uncle and the enabler relatives inherited everything when my grandparents died).
So I don't think it's fair to say that "society lets it happen" because when a parent is enabling their child to behave badly, there's not a lot society can do. People can speak up but the enabler parent is just going to tell the child to ignore them and may even go so far as to retaliate against the person who criticised their precious neckbeard son.
For context I should point out that uncle was born in the late 1940s so he grew up at a time when people were much more inclined to correct other people's children than they are today, yet he still became a neckbeard.
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