Neckbeards and their moms

I’ve been thinking about a type of man that I keep seeing over and over: completely unmotivated, chronically unemployed (on benefits for years), lives in filth, doesn’t cook, clean, or contribute anything—but still expects a girlfriend, a family, and unconditional support. And somehow, the women in his life—especially his mother—treat him like he’s a precious little prince.

Why?

I knew someone like this personally. Completely incapable of doing anything for himself. All his benefit money went to junk food and drugs. He barely showered, wore tattered clothes, lived in a mess, and still moaned about how he wanted a girlfriend and didn’t understand why nobody wanted him. One day I finally snapped and told him: “Nobody will date you because you don’t bring anything to the table. You don’t even clean your own house. You say you want to be a house husband? Then act like it.”

Of course, he threw a tantrum and ghosted, but it really made me wonder: why is no one else saying this to guys like him?

What bothers me the most is that these men often get that entitled mindset from their moms. Moms who never let them struggle, never pushed them to be accountable, and instead reinforced the idea that women are there to care for them no matter what. They grow up with this fantasy that being a "nice guy" (read: passive and completely dependent) is enough.

And society lets it happen. People stay quiet out of politeness. And men are rarely called out for not pulling their weight emotionally or domestically—especially when their dysfunction is cushioned by a family system that enables it.

Let’s be clear: there’s a big difference between someone going through a hard time and someone who refuses to even try, who expects full care and attention while doing nothing in return.

Honestly, I think some of these men are the most delusional types I’ve ever encountered. And the enablers around them? Equally responsible.

Curious what others think—why is this still so normalized? Why are some moms raising men to believe they’re owed everything without doing anything?