This is from the social Qs in the NYTimes written by Philip Galanes, a gay dude and it absolutely infuriates me!! NYTimes is absolutely grooming women to be pickmes, its just as bad as Reddit y’all. Look at them gaslighting this old lady into going 50/50. Excerpt from column (below).
An Odd View of Even-Steven
I am a 71-year-old widow with a caring new boyfriend of five months. We live in the same condo complex; it offers many (free) activities and clubs that we participate in. But when I suggest dates outside the condo, he asks how much they will cost and suggests we go Dutch treat. I am confused by this. He receives a good pension and Social Security payments. I am willing to share costs, but I would like to be the one who makes that decision. Your thoughts?
No one told me it was Gender Week! Forgive me if I misunderstand you, but you seem to be suggesting that you should decide who pays for dates because you are a woman. Do I have that right? You don’t mention being broke or shouldering other costs — such as regularly cooking or gardening for your boyfriend, for instance.
I hope you will reconsider your view. We all like to be treated once in a while, but you are an independent woman. Why do you require a man to pay for you — and why should he? Try to enjoy your new relationship with this “caring” fellow on an equal financial footing. If you can’t manage that, talk to him about it. But beats me how you make your request without making him feel like an A.T.M.
GIVE AN INCH AND THEY WILL TAKE A MILE. Ladies, just look at how stingy this boyfriend of hers is, only wanting to do free activities in the condo and asking the woman to go Dutch even before the first date!! Look at how accommodating this woman is, gently saying that she is “willing to share costs, but I would like to be the one who makes that decision” which is a nice way to phrase how disappointed she must be at her “boyfriend’s” absolutely stinginess and unwillingness to invest even a modicum of effort in her. And look at response by Philip Galenes who accuses her of “making him feel like an A.T.M”.
What about her??? How is his stinginess and lack of effort to court her making HER feel? You cannot win with these people!!!! They are absolutely male centred, big scrote energy and they will drag you to miserable pickme hell if you listen to their advice.
SAY NO to 50/50 and say it FIRMLY. DO NOT GIVE QUARTER. The moment you to try to bargain with stingy men and ask scrotes for advice you’ve lost, welcome to a life of low effort dates with a man who only wants to do free activities in the condo.
Also, gay men can be scrotes, they simply do not understand the nuances of the female perspective. All men are. No brownie points for sexuality here. Case in point: THIS article!