I had a male friend who insisted we were just friends but was acting like we were in a relationship- contacting Me daily, saying something flirty then would get embarrassed or backpedal, say how he cared about me, made plans to see me that seemed just like dates but werent.. this was his long con game into trying to trick women into falling for his dusty self.
He told me that he kept all his exes in his phone and would regularly contact them to try to "catch up". He also told me he would use the dating apps to befriend women, get their numbers, and would try to entertain a friend ship of just chatting (without actually dating them).sometimes he would engage in hot/cold games of taking days to respond after sort of love bombing.
He knew he brought nothing to the table, admitted it several times to me, and how he also had serious anxiety and self confidence issues. This is why he would try to trick women into thinking they were just friends and slowly start hitting on her, slowly start love bombing and future faking in subtle ways, and when she'd catch on and put him in his place "you're just my friend, don't talk like that" he would deny what he said, backpedal, tell her she was imagining things and she was the one getting feelings, and then he would vanish for a few days before popping up in her texts again.
The truth was that his game was luring in as many women as he could, chatting it up as long as possible, because he would Essentially develop crushes on these women and have a fake relationship in his mind with them. He was delibrately trying to confuse these women, they started to not understand if it was just a friendship or if this was entering relationship territory. Keeping women's numbers in his phone made him feel like a player. as he would start acting more like it was a relationship and then immediately push back when the women would want more from him. He was trying to get women to chase him, he always wanted to be the prize.
He ended up admitting to me that he tries sucking women in this way by making them fall in love with him, through getting them to trust him and open up. He opens up just enough and then will slowly start a love bombing and start future faking. But it's subtle and slowly done, so it wasn't always obvious to them. "We are friends, I trust you, I want us to be able to talk about anything, I'm comfortable with you," are some of the lines he would use pretending to be a friend. He wanted her to be confused in gray zone between friends and a couple, it kept her around usually, and it gave him lots of ammo on how to win her over if he ever decided he wanted something more.
He never intended to meetup at first. He'd mention places casually and never follow through or make excuses as to why he couldn't show up. But after several months he'd develop the bravery after she had caught feelings for him thinking they'd be a couple and were soul mates that they'd meet up, and there'd he'd be: an insecure about his height, size, and weight, broke manlet across the table that's she's so emotionally invested into that she overlooks the fact she's not physically attracted to him (along with the tons of other red flags) that she ends up sleeping with him.
He wins and gets what he wants. Then he ends up saying they can't have a relationship and they're just friends and will try to call her a wh0re. And then her number will stay in his contacts, like a little souvenir, "the girl way out of his league that he banged" when he boasts to his friends, and then mentions to his next victim. He got his ego boost and feels like the man for getting with the hot chick that was so head over heels for him.
Don't be fooled by men like this. Men are not your friends, especially insecure men who will waste your time for the gain of their own ego. I've encountered a few like them when I was younger and that's how it always went! The story is from my younger pickme days and I know better now, so I don't need to be lectured, I'm posting for others to learn the tactics and as a cautionary tale.