I wrote this not long ago but deleted it because I thought it was only getting "views," but I regret deleting it because I feel so alone in this.
I had posted recently about a "family friend" who my dad has known for over 50 years, who casually suggested to me that if I wanted to go on a walk but felt unsafe, that I could take him along. I didn't respond any more than an apathetic "yeah" because it was on the phone. A few days later he called my dad to request the same thing of me, and that was when I suspected that the "family friend" had some sort of fixation on me.
Anyway, I have been bothered by what my dad has been saying/doing. He doesn't think that this guy is dangerous or that he's "after me." Not only that, he (dad) thinks that if I am neither too nice nor too mean when rejecting someone, it won't cause him to get offended and that we should try not to offend him by my response to him. I'm like - so it's the way I respond that is the reason for a man to go apeshit and that I have to do it in "just the right way" so that they can graciously exit?
I don't like to hate people, but I'm struggling not to feel plain hatred for men who endorse these points of view.
Was it the man who knew he wanted to date you at 12 or am I remembering it wrong? 🤢 im sorry about that