On another message board, whenever I make a comment to my own posts or someone else's posts, there is a guy there who indefatigably quotes every comment I make. It is causing me to step back in my activity. There is no block feature, just ignore feature. The situation is very irritating. I told someone else at the forum this and she said how he struggles with autism and that he does this to others as well. Look, I know that autism is a disorder, but I hope that this is not an excuse that the guy is giving just to do his thing.
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Autism is not an excuse for any behavior that makes you feel irritated. This applies to men and women.
An asshole who has autism is still an asshole, no matter the gender, no matter the autism.
As a woman who is on the spectrum, too, and who knows plenty of well-adjusted autistic people, men using autism as an excuse to get away with their inappropriate behaviour drives me up the walls because it harms and reflects badly on all of us who are really, really trying their best. I even made a post about it here a while ago:
Quoting myself:
Weaponized incompetency: Neurodivergent edition.
Gotta love the cultural sentiment "accept autistic people and be inclusive!" while simultaneously "autistic people are entitled to be creepy and disturb you because they are not normal!" Of course he's using it as an excuse.
Bad men have grown up in a society that coddles and makes excuses for them and they are used to this. That's why they use excuses like "I'm autistic" because 9 times out of 10, it works. That's why we need to stop accepting bad behaviour from men and stop accepting their excuses. Most of the time, their excuses are BS anyway.
Tell him publicly that he's being weird.
If they aren't uncontrollable in other areas (crime, handflapping, etc) then they can follow social rules that are explicitly stated.
You don't even have to be mean.
"Hey, I noticed you keep quoting everything I'm saying. I find that a little weird. Is there a reason you're following me and retyping everything I say?"
Call it out.
Autistic men sure know how to behave then there are instant consequences. I dealt with them and I can honestly say that they lack more empathy than the average male.
As if. The men on love on the spectrum don't seem to have this problem. James is the king of consent even for things like holding hands and David is seriously a perfect gentleman.