It’s nice to be back after some time off wix 😎
Dating a 33 y/o man for a month or so. Strong start - he’s good looking plus a total gent to me and we started out as friends. Met him in my gym so all fit and healthy etc. likes a drink but nothing excessive.
But when we go to do the deed he loses his erection mid way through - sometimes during foreplay. To date he has never had an o* with me. He said it’s because he’s overthinking/ cares so much and wants to work on it. Of course we can and do do other things. But I’ll be honest, I find this a bit unusual in view of his fitness and I know this isn’t really to do with me.
He had a bereavement 4 months ago and I do wonder if this is playing a part. I asked if he was concerned about an unwanted pregnancy which he vehemently denied. I have been reassuring.
im only 33 myself and have been in relationships where the sex was sub par. I don’t want to go down that road again. and no, I don’t want to suggest blue tabs to a healthy 33 year old but I do feel like a bitch for getting turned off by this.
any advice would be welcome. Consensus is that it’s likely porn related which would be shit but not surprising.
you’re only a month in and he’s already unable to perform in bed? That’s LV as hell on his part. Dump him and find a guy with a working penis. You’re unsatisfied and quite frankly sex MATTERS in a healthy, long term relationship. His body has failed him and it’s not your problem to fix. He cannot be a good fit for you because his dick doesn’t work.
If he was healthy he’d be able to get and maintain an errection. He obviously isn’t healthy. I’d move on to better, greener pastures. You’re only 33 and that’s WAY too young to be dealing with geriatric dick issues. He can enjoy his internet boobs while you find a guy with a working penis.
Edit to add: And you know what, you’re really nice for even asking other women if it’s an issue. If a guy I was seeing failed to maintain an erection during foreplay and/or sex I’d have called him pathetic and kicked him out. A zero tolerance policy is best when it comes to sexual compatibility. If he’s unable to perform now how’s he gonna do it in 5, 10, or even 20 years?! Definitely don’t waste your time on a guy like him.