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I know that if I ask this on subs like r/sex I will get a bunch of men hating. One time I posted saying that I want to wait 6 months before getting intimate in a relationship and I had a line of men saying that it is too long and the optimal is 2 weeks in the relationship. Yeah.
So when dating, what's a high body count for you on men?
Dudes love to talk about women's body count. We know. Nobody really talks about theirs.
I am seeing a guy who has been with 5 girls before, we are both 23. I find it a lot tbh for a man. 2 of them were FWB and the 3 were relationships. He had his 1st time when he was 14.. we are from small areas, not in the United States. He brags about being surrounded in his past by girls a lot and it is a turn off. I feel kinda guilty cause I have a body count of 7 and all of them except from 1 relationship, were only one time because I was looking for a boyfriend when I was 19 and I sadly thought that by doing it on the first date I'd get someone committed. Sex is viewed differently by men and women so I don't see it as equal tbh. He was trying to bang as many girls as possible in an ego way while I was giving away myself to anyone in hopes of committing.
The whole concept of a body count is disgusting. I wouldn't be able to take seriously any man who asked me mine and would immediately next him, because we clearly wouldn't be on the same page.
Numbers wouldn't necessarily help me vet, anyway. I'd learn much more from how he views sex and how he treats women, including how he speaks about former partners and what he was doing before he met me: i.e. was he courting with intention and working on himself, or was he going home with any woman he met?
Regarding your question, it really doesn't matter what any of us think. Your standards are yours and if something doesn't sit right with you, my advice is you should honor your feelings. You're the only one living your life and you have to be comfortable with it.
Also, this jumped out at me in your post:
Really pay attention to what you just said here. This behavior tells you a lot about who he is and why you're not a match.