Ladies of color, if your White boyfriend is a Beardy mcLeftist who can't go five minutes without ranting about how much he hates White women, I don't care how moral or justified his grievance is. Please dump his ass for the following reasons:
Give a man a socially acceptable cohort of women to dunk on, and he'll use them as a scapegoat to express his resentment towards all women in general. I promise you your boyfriend hates women of color for all the same things he hates White women for.
If your boyfriend is White, he only exists at all because a white woman risked her life to bring him into this world. If he has nothing but contempt and vitriol towards the cohort of woman who he literally owes his life to, what makes you think he's going to hold women of color in any higher regard?
Very true and that's why I hate that "Karen" thing. It went from showing on the internet actual rude women to being a term to just silence women where they can't complain or speak up about anything. Same thing as the old "angry black lady" trope that has existed for at least as long as my life has been. They love to pit women against each other so we won't see how much they hate us all.
My ex was a Latino guy who had dated a series of white women in the past and had used them for a place to stay and basically as his sugar mama. Even poor ones. And one very wealthy Asian woman.
He had never dated a Latina and admitted to me one night while drunk that he thought they were too good for him but that they were his ideal and that he hoped to actually end up with a woman of that race one day. He also endlessly posted memes making fun of white women and Asian women and "Karen" videos and said that he thought they are all entitled and spoiled.
He pretty much dated them because he hated them, and took out his resentment by using them because he felt they owed him because he blamed them for his problems.
But then all his guy friends were white. He was a metalhead type.
That right there showed me, he just hates women and took it out only on certain races of women, while he put the race he had not dated on a pedestal. He never expressed any hate toward white or Asian men or any men actually, but over the time I knew him, he became increasingly obsessed with going on and on in real life and on social media, about how horrible specifically white women are.
As a Hispanic woman who gets hit on by black men often, I refuse to date any who say they won't date black women. If you won't date your own race, you can't date me.
It's simply MANipulation when a guy hates the women of his own race. He's expecting you to act as the other and not do whatever he states he dislikes. And a guy who thinks all women in a race are the same is mentally ill. Women are individual human beings with different personalities, goals, dreams, etc. It is beyond insulting to hear a guy shit on the very women who brought him into the world and kept him alive.
Exactly! I blocked and deleted a man precisely because he has such hate for white women even though his mom is white. I couldn’t fathom how a man bought up with so much privilege and love thanks to white mother can hate white woman. He had such a victim mentality that I couldn’t tolerate him.
As a middle age woman, I absolutely loathe the Karen phenomenon. It is a way of siliencing a group of people. I understand that in the beginning, there were examples where it was funny, but now has morphed into "any white woman with a grievance of anykind who used her voice is a Karen." Men have latched onto this idea because they love reasons to shush a woman if they can.
Men who hate women of the same race hate themselves, but know they can't attack other men.
It's so prevalent in Japan that the woman aren't even accepting marriage offers now because they know how toxic the males are.
Black dudes "hate" Black women for reflecting the outcomes of racism.
Asian men "hate" Asian women for being small and generally non aggressive.
White men "hate" White women for having the White savior/White person in charge complex.
I know White dudes who swear up and down they hate "the effects of porn" and the actresses are all evil, but aren't man enough to talk about the producers or consumers (almost all men.)
Men use words to misconstrue truths.
We use words to truly clarify, and project that onto them.