I so appreciated the "life with a LVM man" post, and I want to address the birthday issue specifically.
I've known far too many men (how odd that it is always a man) who say, "I don't care about birthdays" or "I don't celebrate my birthday, it's no big deal to me" or "I cared about my birthday when I was a kid, but not now that I'm grown." That last one is especially telling because, while they're trying to spin it as a sign of maturity, I put it through my brain's translator and the readout said, "The last time I cared about birthdays was when someone else made a huge freaking deal out of it, treated me to an entire day of fun, and we had cake and ice cream and balloons and a party. Now that I'm an adult, I finally realize that SOMEONE ELSE actually had to put all that effort into my special day, and I'm damned if I'M going to go to that kind of trouble for anyone."
Actually, hearing that old "I don't care about birthdays" is an orange flag for me because it's like he's setting you up to have low expectations. HE supposedly doesn't care about them (but obviously he'd be tickled if someone gave him a swell present or took him out to dinner or to a B&B), so YOU'VE been warned that you shouldn't care about them either because you're doomed to disappointment. It's one of the rare times a scrote actually gives a specific warning!