If your man keeps on quipping about how you're too good for him, or that he doesn't deserve you, it's in your best interest to take him at face value and dump his ass. Even if you think he's joking, men's jokes are rarely ever "just jokes" when it comes to this sort of thing.
If he's ugly, he needs the self awareness to recognize that youre out of his league and put in the necessary effort into whatever aspects of his appearance he can control in order to make up for those bad genes. If he's not as rich, he needs to be proud of his profession. If he's not as successful, he still needs to be content with whatever level he's at in life, regardless of where your own compares to it.
Cause even if YOU manage to overlook the fact that you're putting yourself at a disadvantage by settling for him, rest assured that his fragile ego will not allow him to do the same. And no matter what you say to reassure the scrote that your heart is his and no one else's, it won't do shit to shake the suspicion that it's only thanks to your lack of self-respect that he's managed to snag it.
Which leads to any one of the following outcomes, none of which will pay off for you.
if your boyfriend doesn't appreciate himself enough for self-love, he's not going to appreciate you for putting up with him in spite of that. As a result, he decides that if you dont respect yourself enough to do better than him, he's under zero obligation to do so either. Cut to you being taken for granted, cheated on the moment the opportunity presents itself, or strung along for years as a forever girlfriend who your bf always has zero shortage of excuses as to why its not "the right time" to marry.
He decides that as long as your relationship is contingent on your low self esteem, he needs to make it his mission to keep it that way- resulting in him negging, belittling your accomplishments, making backhanded compliments, and taking shots at your looks, weight, wardrobe etc every chance he gets.
As a general rule of thumb, insecure men don't enjoy feeling like charity cases. You being out of his league serves as a constant reminder of how much of a loser he feels like. Eventually he grows to find your presence in his life emasculating and starts treating you like a scapegoat to project his self-hatred onto.
He grows jealous and starts treating you like his competition rather than a partner. All of your achievements are met with hostility and resentment. The next thing you know, you're downplaying your talents and accomplishments and putting your own career/goals on hold in order to soothe his ego.
So in conclusion, you should ideally never commit to a guy less attractive, less rich, or less successful than yourself, but if you truly do believe that you've found your soul mate in such a fellow, at least make sure he's happy with his lot in life. Best believe he will make his insecurities your problem if he isn't.
Perfectly said! I just had this issue pop up tonight where a guy I WAS dating kept bringing up how out of his leage I was. Super cringe. He then decided to end it tonight randomly after begging me to date him just the week before. Lmao. My friends and I got a lot of laughs about this after I got home and called them. Men with low self esteem (even hotties like him who are literally the beauty standard) are NOT it.
Holy sh*t! This is exactly what went down with my ex-h and father of my children.
Spoiler alert: he's still jealous and hateful to this day. He's also continued to be super low-value.
I got married at 22. Wish I'd had FDS 30 Years ago.