"Not catching a fish at the lake is like leaving the club without any p888y". -an ex boyfriend
He said this in jest but "truth in humor". Please consider that LVM are perpetually on the hunt for sex and to exploit women. They are confused when women go to clubs for the dancing because they are looking for one night stands. They will pretend to be interested in doing business with you and then get wild when you do not want a relationship with them.
Consider that men study us from when they are teenagers- they study manipulation tactics whilst women study "how to be a good girlfriend" or "how to make a relationship work".
"Not all men" but which ones?!!!! You can only know through time and vetting. Nefarious actors and abusers are highly skilled at wearing masks but they can only sustain a mask for so long. The "abundance mindset" sets women up for failure! A woman thinks there are so many great men out there, I must be the common denominator with all of my bad experiences. In my not humble opinion it is healthier to accept that HVM are rare and to decide that you may have periods of singleness that will protect you from low quality experiences/abuse. If/when you do meet someone amazing, it will be sublime but your periods of singleness will also train you to NOT have a scarcity mindset- since you were single and loved it you will have the courage to leave if he begins to drag your self- esteem through the mud.
There are so many men who believe their own lies too. They put on a whole act and fully believe that they are a perfect gentleman looking for love until after they get sex and then they suddenly realize they only wanted a one night stand.