When you truly love someone, you would go through anything to prove your commitment to them. If your boyfriend doesn't want to marry you, it's because he doesn't value you enough to make that kind of commitment. Or at least, he values the freedom of keeping one foot out the door way more.
And if you listen to his excuses as to why he thinks marriage is stupid, you'll quickly determine that it's not the ceremony in and of itself he takes issue with, it's the fact that he doesn't think you're worth it.
Regardless of how dumb he thinks the ceremony is, whatever issue he has with the whole affair would be swallowed if he thought you were worth the investment.
I'm torn on this one.
Men should be leaping and begging for marriage, because it benefits THEM.
I know it's not pure FDS, but I'm much more skeptical of the benefits of marriage for women. Too often - even with the best of intentions, a great career and a strong resolve - women get sucked in, hosed down and ruined by marriage and child bearing. Even a HVM can turn like sour milk.
So if he's not jumping for joy at the prospect, run. And protect yourselves ladies. Having children with your own eggs and a sperm bank is safer than with a man, imo. Maybe date, don't buy?