Does anyone have any advice on learning to receive/ just be with regard to friendships? I used to be an over-giver, which I have now recognized was a covertly manipulative attempt to prevent people from leaving me. I thought if I made people need me/ depend on me then they would stay. I am trying to implement things like putting on my own oxygen mask and giving to myself first, which has certainly helped. However, I now find myself confused on the limit especially with regard to female friendships. How much do I give? Right now I have been trying the invest exactly as much as they invest and not an inch more, but this doesn't exactly feel natural or right. For example, a friend invited me for dinner at her place and I brought drinks and strawberries. This week a friend treated me to an expensive dinner so I sent her a fancy thank you card after. I invite my friends to hang out and make plans, but if they don't reach out the next time to make plans, I don't give a second invite. I hate how calculated/ tit for tat I feel with regard to these interactions, but I just can't seem to find a comfortable balance between giving relationships my everything and not giving anything at all.