The guys I've gone out with, including the relatively HV (educated, well-off) ones, all come dressed in the same t-shirt and pants, or even shorts. They look like they rolled out of bed to come see me. I'm not the type to spend hours getting ready for a date either, unless it's a special occasion, but I put on a cute dress and do my hair more nicely than usual. Stereotypically guys aren't supposed to care about fashion, but I wish they did, at least a tiny bit to avoid looking like they're heading to the laundromat.
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Men will legit claim they’re “ViSuAL cREaTuREs” yet know nothing about fashion, interior design and even personal hygiene/maintenance. LV men especially, like to see themselves as alpha ooga-booga cavemen, so taking any interest in that kind of stuff would be considered gay or feminine. 🙄
It's disrespect, plain and simple. Because they absolutely know how to dress decently (and wear a suit or at least decent pants and a button-up shirt or plain shirt and a suit jacket or something) when it comes to their own work events and stuff that's important to them.
They have that stuff in their closets. They just don't think your date is an important enough occasion to put it on, compared to a work event or interview.
Seeing a well dressed guy is as rare as seeing a handsome one, I still remember every nice outfit I have seen from male strangers because its so damn rare.
A general note though because I see this often on FDS, being educated or well off is no indication for being HV, it tells you almost nothing about someone's character. So always be careful ladies! Don't let anything fool you.
Politely note he seems to have been rushed that day and was unable to prepare. Say "Life happens," and suggest "perhaps" another time. Proceed to the bar or another place. Enjoy yourself. Don't reward disrespect. Block and delete.
I love guessing when men and woman are on a date / first date. She is dressed, looking like a goddess, and he is dressed, looking like a stock Lego character.
Yes, and it's terrible. Men know how to dress for job interviews, special occasions, and a professional environment but suddenly forget everything when they're to meet you for a date? I don't think so. It's intentional neglect and probably meant to be a neg. If a man shows up dressed poorly for your date, cancel immediately and go enjoy yourself with friends or on your own. Don't reward scrote behavior with the pleasure of your company. He knows what he's doing, and if he doesn't then he's not a suitable mate anyway.
Yes, I feel like we need to start shaming men for “casual styles” aka cargo pants, I’ll fitting t-shirts, and ugly sandals. Maybe then they will start dressing better. Also straight man style is complete trash and they need to be thrown in the dumpster
Agree OP!!! I have had the same opinion for many years. American men especially are WAY too dressed down. To me, they all look like children at a Little League baseball game: T-shirt, sneakers, ball cap. That ubiquitous style is not at all attractive to me— narrowing the field even further LOL! T shirt’s are underwear and I will die on that hill
About time someone brought this up! I see gorgeous women out and about walking around with men and their wrinkled, unkempt dude brofits and flip flops and I just go UGH. Why?? WHHYYYYYYYY?
Men who are very dressy are not my type (like the Harry Styles or BTS band member type even though they are great to look at) but I get what you mean. You can have a low-key style and still be well-dressed. It's a huge turn off otherwise and it can be quite embarassing tbh. For men, it's pretty easy even. Just a few quality pieces for every type of occasion, good knowledge of colours and fabrics, and being attentive to tailoring.
I’m not going to lie, I’ve never had a guy show up daggy or unkempt looking. He doesn’t need to be suited up but he’s always made an effort to be groomed, fresh haircut, and styled appropriately. I’m always well groomed and well dressed and have had guys straight up comment that it would be insulting not to match my effort. Point is, I don’t even entertain the idea of dating a guy who is not on my level. If a guy is asking you out, take a good look at him before you give him your response. Him asking you out is him starting to try his best to win you over. If he doesn’t look the part when he is asking you out, it is not going to get better. We don’t show up to job interviews looking like we just got over the flu. Don’t even consider men who clearly don’t make an effort.
Or if they're dressed well, it lacks any personality. I live at place where young men don't usually dress sloppy, but they all look the same.
Their fashion is boring.
I really like Korean men's outfits .
I feel like they really enjoy getting dressed up in the morning. It's such a breath of fresh air.
TBH I'd love to shop with them🥴.
I need at least a button down and nice pants. Every date I've gone on where I remember actually being interested in the man he's worn at least that. I once was meeting up with a guy at his house to just hang out (gone on several real dates before) and I wore a new dress I got and some chunky sandal heels. When he saw me he immediately complimented how I looked and was extremely apologetic for what he was wearing (basketball shorts and a tee shirt) and said he would change. He wore a button down and khakis and gotten a haircut before our first date and I wore a work out clothes so maybe that's why he felt it was okay to dress casual but was quick to match the way I looked when he saw I was wearing a dress
Not dressing for the date is a deal breaker for me. I like and want men who are prepared.
I'm late to this post but one time I went out with a guy who had greasy hair. It looked like he hadn't washed it in 4 days. Tried to kiss me after a few drinks too. I think these days I would have left after the first drink.