I have changed my number about 3 times within last 14 years.
Because of men.
One was a stalker who found my family records and everything even after I blockt, the next was an Abuser who made numerous fake numbers to contact me after I moved on, and now the third man is.... something I need to move on from.
This third man was a man I've known for over 10 years and it was very much a LDR that ebs and flows. we had a rocky two year relationship and we just kept in contact. I really don't want to get into the details but I KNOW this will get me to stop talking to him cause in no effing way am I giving a man this new number.
I'm dramatic. I want a clear slate. I may not have self control but I know that when I do have a clear "marker" of a new start, I know how to control myself. This may be a weird trait to some, maybe lol.
It's so much damn work to change my number and in no way am I going to text any man from my past again.
I have learned from FDS to use Google voice numbers when dating. That is my new plan.
I think I'll only give him my real number if we are at the stage of joining each others family vacations which in that case, there would already be talk of engagement or marriage.
The more I read FDS and study other FDS teachers on other platforms, then I'll graduate out of the PickMe mindset... and won't have the urge to get all crazy and hurt..(By the way- my friend said I may have BPD. Idk. Maybe? That's why I get crazy? I have severe C-PTSD and codependency.)
Either way, even if I get crazy with man in future, he will have my google number. I tend to forget to check my messaging apps for months. So that's Good. Men aren't important me anymore.
My new number is not for random men. Not anymore. theres important men in my life that may include family members, work related males, a tax person, a doctor, you know stuff like that... If you're not that, you're just a random man from the street.
any thoughts or opinions? Bad idea? Good idea? Dumb idea? any similar stories? Warnings?
I am already preparing everything and it won't be tonight that I'm changing it... but soon.
I just want to be free from my past.
I'm struggling with something. Men these days might catch onto the fact that your number is a Google one. What are we supposed to tell them if they accuse us of using a Google number? My Google number (although I have never used it yet) is a different area code than either my or my dad's real number.