So a few days ago I made a post about a crazy situation with my friend, I had sex with him and it got weird.
I have now deleted that post, if I’m being honest I was embarrassed by the replies.
It was my first time posting here, my friend had suggested this forum if I wanted good advice about my situation as she didn’t know exactly how to guide me.
I got responses about how I wasn’t following the rules and how I was practically acting a fool, I was really confused cause that wasn’t exactly the response I was expecting and had no clue about any rules or anything .
I only just found the forum and never did any research, I was really so embarrassed that I never even responded to any comments and just deleted the post.
I really went back and reflected on my life and some of those comments.
Honestly, since high school I haven’t really had a real relationship. I’ve been jumping from one situationship to another and I’m currently 27.
I have really always been chasing and wanting someone to just want me or want to be with me, the moment a man gives me little attention I just assume things and go all out for it to work. I always end up being in a situation where I’m used and eventually left.
I can see I have no standards or values.
I actually realized how much I’ve wasted my life just focusing on men and wanting them to want me.
How do I turn my life around?
I’m currently broke, without a job(I did a change in career and still trying to build my portfolio while applying for jobs but no hope yet), I’m overweight and I get depressed and sad alot. I can’t really even take care of myself and do a lot for myself, I’m currently being supported by family till I can figure things out.
I didn’t realize how bad it was till no, I’ve basically based my whole life and everything on men even though I keep getting played and used.
I want to turn things around for myself, this forum really served as a reality check for me.
What advise would you ladies give someone in my situation?