Why do some men keep mentioning their ex when trying to get to know you?
For example the last person I talked to wouldn't shut up about her. In every text message he would text something about her.
"My ex cheated on me", "my ex hated video games", "my ex hated the music I listened to", "my ex ditched me", "my ex didn't want to help me with my business", "my ex didn't want to help with the renovations", "my ex was a girly girl" and so on.
But when I confronted him and asked him why he's on the dating apps if he's clearly not over her, he said that he is over her but that she's been a part of his life for so long and he just wanted to share his experiences.
That was the same guy from the last post who told me that he co-owns a property with her.
Apart from the other questionable and sketchy stuff, him going on and on about his ex was really starting to annoy me, so that's also a reason why I ended up blocking him.
Also he got really rude when I brought it up, not apologizing for it and telling me he won't mention her again but instead he wished me a nice life.
Why do they use women as a rebound or a therapist?
To be honest, it doesn't surprise me that she ditched him because they've been together for 9 years and why wouldn't he put a ring on her finger. Why didn't he just break up with her when they didn't have much in common? He wasted years of her life.
Its a subtle tactic to subconsciously police your behavior so you’ll go the extra mile to impress him and to prove “you’re different and not like those other women.”
They might also be testing to see how easily he can turn you against other people. Those scenarios he mentioned might not even exist or were greatly exaggerated. He wants to see if he can isolate you at a later period for future abuse.
9/10 when a man claims he was “abused” by his ex it was the other way around.