First, thanks for creating this site! I know it takes a lot of work and planning.
I just left a long-term marriage. OMG, the emotional and psychological games.
I ghosted (yep, middle of the night with only the possessions I could fit in my car). I know it's pathetic, but sometimes I feel like I left a puppy tied to a tree in the woods (guilt), yet I know he's a grown-ass man who chose to play games every. single. day.
I'm posting here to break my own inertia (I just wasn't sure where to begin as far as a sub-forum...please let me know if there's a better place to start).
I did enough work during the relationship to know I did the right thing and shouldn't feel guilty. Still, any encouragement is appreciated.
You shouldn't feel the least bit guilty about ghosting. If he just wants to play emotional games there's no telling what he would have done if he knew you were walking out. You had to take the right step for yourself and you did it! Welcome to this site, I think you'll find a lot of love and support among this awesome group of ladies!
@Blossom_Dawn - thank you so much! Yes, OMG, the games. It was out of control.
What helped me so much was to stay cool, lean back, and observe so that I could see exactly what I was dealing with. I woke the eff up.
I have a pretty big investment with this man (we split everything 50/50, but he probably thinks it's all his). I found an attorney that I like, so he can deal with him going forward.
Through the entire marriage, I stayed really fit, however, I was under-eating. So, I hired a health coach and have been fully nourishing my body (and soul). After 6 months, I'm feeling stronger and eat enough calories each day (1800 to 2200 calories a day, yum!). I started lifting again yesterday, yay! #levelup :)
WOW! It sounds like you really are leveling up! Keep up the good work, stay strong and remember that we're always here for you hun. :big hugs:
Thank God you got out.
Thanks @Blossom_Dawn hugs back to you!
Don’t feel guilty. You prioritized yourself. There’s nothing wrong with that <3