Snooping When There Are Passwords?

Watch his behaviour. Plain and simple. All my devices are password protected. Not necessarily because I have something to hide from my own partner, but my partner will not be the only person with access to them and while I may be okay with a partner using them and seeing what's on them, I sure as hell want to keep strangers out. Some information - like anything related to my work - HAS to be kept confidential, even when it comes to my partner or family. Anything else would cost me my job. So my work laptop is turned off and packed away when I am not working and absolutely off limits.

So... you watch his behaviour. Does he unlock his phone/computer for you if you want or need to use them or does he act weird if that comes up? Does he tell you his password if he's in another room so you can unlock it yourself? Does he leave his devices unlocked around you if he needs to step out or does he lock them every single time? Does he act shady if you sit next to him or come up behind him and can see his screen? A simple everyday example:

You are in the car, he's driving and you need to look up directions but your phone's battery is dead. Does he say "Just take my phone, the password is 1234" or not?

To be honest, if someone is already acting shady enough that I am contemplanting hacking his password protected devices to snoop, then I would skip the snooping and just leave.

Snooping saves lives.

If you can afford the luxury to trust a male blindly, you might as well dig your own grave.

Males are dangerous. They are not stupid like some users claim. They are predatory. The moment you let your guard down, they get you.

Women NEED TO snoop. Never feel "bad" about doing this. Snooping is amoral. You have a duty to protect yourself first and foremost. If that means looking over his shoulder while he types in his lock code or whatever, do it.

I’ve dated many tech savvy guys. Once I established a deeper connection and trust, many of them willingly share their passwords with me. Granted it’s mostly to their phones, so I can play music on their phones when they’re driving. On the flip side, I don’t share my password with them, and they don't care.

Ask randomly to go through it, but playful.

If he says no, there is a reason.

Their passwords are usually saved in their computer. All of us save our passwords, usually, unless you want to type it in every time. You can find it under the settings of their browser page. But if he's tech savvy he might not have them saved.

Passwords are fine.

Every relationship has different boundaries. Regardless of gender, I would never be able to let a partner have access to a phone with client's details in it. That's data protection for you.

Assuming that he doesn't have legal requirements to keep you out, ask if you can borrow his phone for a minute or two to look something up. You can vet his reaction.

I would not recommend snooping, mind. I'm sure many will disagree, but if the first action you take after being trusted with something small is to snoop, that will make him keep you out in future.