So like, I am mostly ace, straight in terms of dating and marriage, but like, I LIKE women.
I've never associated a life partner with marriage, and I won't - marriage is a business deal, not a love deal (but if you DO get married, he should love you more)
In terms of like, the relationship I'd want, I can really only imagine another woman.
Like, just a chill life... Both working together, no cheating, but like, if she WANTS to experiment somewhere, I wouldnt be mad.
I was thinking about it, and honestly, I'd want to be the main breadwinner, but like, she could work part time or something for stuff she wants.
I know fantasy isn't always how it plays out, and I'm terrified I'm romanticizing lesbianism.
I don't want someone to just fall into my love life narrative, especially if I'm ACTUALLY straight deep down and just responding to trauma from males.
How early do you know if you're a lesbian or not?
Theres no such thing as being asexual. All there is is the way you feel.you Everyone has their own unique sex drive. People with low interest in sex dont gain anything by fixating on labels and worrying over whether or not theyre truely asexual.
If youre wondering if you're asexual - no you're not, no one is, because it's not real. You know how you feel - uninterested in sex for the most part. That's fine. And thats all there is to it. You can stop worrying about labels now.
And "asexual" was a term invented by girls on Tumblr a few years ago in response to being sexualized by predatory men. Not very inspired if you ask me.
Just be straight up with any women you date. Say you're not too sure and you want to explore. Anyone looking for something serious will know better than to get involved.
Girl, I’ve been finding every excuse under the sun since I was a child to be making out with other women. That said, I avoid the LGBT crowds now because of how rancid all the sides are. The lesbians are incredibly mean to bi women like me, the bi women and men often disgustingly promiscuous to the point of satire, and gay men are quick to tell me off for not sleeping with any willing man, not to mention the hyper focus on validating mentally ill men and women with trans, they/them, nonbinary shit. I find most of them to be exhausting and feel happier hanging out with straight people who’s entire lives don’t revolve around sex and their sexuality. It’s cool to be bi or gay or hetero, but omfg it’s not a personality trait. I don’t live my life as bi first, everything else second.
I have talked about my experiences dating women and such before which you can look at my forum post history for. But the idea you want to be a straight woman who has a girl bestie you sometimes fool around with is EXACTLY why lesbian women are so mean to bi women like me. I don’t blame lesbians for avoiding bi women when MOST of them have your shitty mindset. You want a man and to fool around with a lesbian but NOT have anything serious with her. You want your cake and to eat it, too. It’s disgusting. If we were talking in person and you said that I’d smack you hard across the mouth. You need to self-reflect a bit more. Women aren’t hot and ready sex objects always looking to be used.
Boston marriage is a thing, so if you want to become legally bound to a good straight female friend, that's your choice. It'd be different from heteronormative marriage though. I know two straight women from the USA who are in a Boston marriage. They said they're friends that cohabitate, they don't need permission to date men if they want to and got married for the legal, financial and medical benefits. They're not in a breadwinner-homemaker relationship. All is equal and the relationship is 100% platonic.
Other than that platonic arrangement, it's only fair for women get married to someone who love them and find them attractive. Heterosexual women experience a lot of shit for being attracted to men, but lesbians and bi women have their own trials and tribulations. Their dating pool is already very small and now infested with qweer folx and spicy straights, most countries are homophobic and they still get a lot of shit from men.
I cannot speak for all same sex attracted women, but I fell so hard for a girl when I was a teen. I never felt toward any male the strong feelings I had for her. I call myself straight because it was a one off experience (I'm exclusively attracted to men and I hate it), it won't do bi women any favor by calling myself one. Maybe it'd be different if I didn't grow up in a homophobic country but, for all intents and purposes, I'm straight.
You'd know if you're attracted to women when you're attracted to one.
Does anyone know how to post on mobile…sorry I just don’t know what where to ask?