Found this online. This woman is getting dragged in the comments, NOT for accepting a low effort date, but for not dressing in more than gym clothes (for the low effort date).
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Unknown member
Jan 22
I saw that post as well. The way I see it, the man suggested a low effort date i.e. coffee, the woman dressed accordingly and he didn't like it. The vast majority of the comments were criticising her for not dressing up and for "not making him feel special". As the woman said herself, he spent less than 2 minutes organising the date so why would she spend more than that on her appearance. Also, she had to pay for her own coffee.
I tried lurking 2x recently and I was reminded of why I hate that sub.
Unknown member
Jan 22
She did great, the only thing she could have done better was to not go on the date at all. But that's a great example of how women should behave with a low effort dude. Just go casually and do an errand after half an hour more or less.
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Unknown member
Jan 22
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Exactly! This man only wanted to pay for a low effort date but he wanted a high maintance woman.
The date he offers is a reflection of how he sees you.
If he sees your value and actually likes you, he will come correct with a dinner date. If he thinks you should audition for a chance to be taken to dinner, he'll invite you to coffee/walk/housedate etc.
In 2024 more women are waking up to how low effort dates from a guy mean the guy himself is TRASH. Just broke assholes looking for the cheapest, easiest way to get their dicks wet. I'm hoping more women just turn to phone calls and face times vs walk dates or coffee to determine quality as it's not only safer, but saves them time.
I had a date with a guy Friday night and HE was the one who chose the restaurant (a 4-star steakhouse), made the reservation, made sure to open my door, take my coat, pull out my chair, paid for it all, and showed me a genuinely good time as a gentleman. He didn't force a kiss on me after the date, either, but he did accept my enthusiastic agreement for a second date. He isn't some gross old man, either. He's 24, I'm 23. Gentleman in their 20's exist! The only "pre-date" I needed to do was a facetime to make sure we were on the same page. Wasting our precious time on cheap dates is just not the move.
Please tell me why apparently real-life women are replying with "you should have done make up! You missed out on a good mayan. When I met my hubby he asked me to bleach his floors and I wore chanel. That's how you catch a man like mine. Better luck next time sweetie"
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Jan 22
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I'm convinced that a fair portion of them are men. Of course men are going to push a narrative that women owe it to men to dress up, even for a coffee date where she buys her own coffee.
The comments I saw didn’t say dress to the nines, but at least “jeans and a cute top” is what they think of when they think casual. I don’t remember if make-up was mentioned.
I think the woman did fine (obviously), she didn’t go out of her way for a guy who didn’t go out of his way for her. She had other things to do that day and she wasn’t going to disrupt her schedule any more than an hour meeting…at most.
Part of me wants her to show up to Starbucks in an amazing ball gown, flashy jewellery, a tiara, fancy makeup and perfume....
...and then demand that he reimburses her for the makeup and perfume she wasted (that stuff is expensive) and for the wear and tear on her clothes and jewellery because he was clearly out to waste her time.
Add cheap ice cream parlour to mix. We sad like a bunch of idiots. I can’t believe I entertained that guy for an hour with melting ice cream. Waste of $3 and my time.
This guy was really like "why didn't you instantly put in more effort than me like you're supposed to 😠😠😠"
Personally I go to Starbucks before work every morning, if someone asked me to go there on date that's so boring ! Why is it not a widespread agreement that coffee dates don't make sense? You wouldn't suggest going on a date to the supermarket, to clothes shop, to the bar or to go for a vape . These are things you might do with your friends and acquaintances.
It screams "meet me in a convenient place near my house and let me persuade you to sleep with me"
I saw that post as well. The way I see it, the man suggested a low effort date i.e. coffee, the woman dressed accordingly and he didn't like it. The vast majority of the comments were criticising her for not dressing up and for "not making him feel special". As the woman said herself, he spent less than 2 minutes organising the date so why would she spend more than that on her appearance. Also, she had to pay for her own coffee.
She did great, the only thing she could have done better was to not go on the date at all. But that's a great example of how women should behave with a low effort dude. Just go casually and do an errand after half an hour more or less.
The date he offers is a reflection of how he sees you.
If he sees your value and actually likes you, he will come correct with a dinner date. If he thinks you should audition for a chance to be taken to dinner, he'll invite you to coffee/walk/housedate etc.
In 2024 more women are waking up to how low effort dates from a guy mean the guy himself is TRASH. Just broke assholes looking for the cheapest, easiest way to get their dicks wet. I'm hoping more women just turn to phone calls and face times vs walk dates or coffee to determine quality as it's not only safer, but saves them time.
I had a date with a guy Friday night and HE was the one who chose the restaurant (a 4-star steakhouse), made the reservation, made sure to open my door, take my coat, pull out my chair, paid for it all, and showed me a genuinely good time as a gentleman. He didn't force a kiss on me after the date, either, but he did accept my enthusiastic agreement for a second date. He isn't some gross old man, either. He's 24, I'm 23. Gentleman in their 20's exist! The only "pre-date" I needed to do was a facetime to make sure we were on the same page. Wasting our precious time on cheap dates is just not the move.
Sounds like homeboy got exactly what he asked for. Ahahaha. 🖕🏻
Please tell me why apparently real-life women are replying with "you should have done make up! You missed out on a good mayan. When I met my hubby he asked me to bleach his floors and I wore chanel. That's how you catch a man like mine. Better luck next time sweetie"
She decided to match his energy and the internet dragged her for it? Dafuq.
Part of me wants her to show up to Starbucks in an amazing ball gown, flashy jewellery, a tiara, fancy makeup and perfume....
...and then demand that he reimburses her for the makeup and perfume she wasted (that stuff is expensive) and for the wear and tear on her clothes and jewellery because he was clearly out to waste her time.
Add cheap ice cream parlour to mix. We sad like a bunch of idiots. I can’t believe I entertained that guy for an hour with melting ice cream. Waste of $3 and my time.
In a race to the bottom, the woman never wins.
This guy was really like "why didn't you instantly put in more effort than me like you're supposed to 😠😠😠"
Personally I go to Starbucks before work every morning, if someone asked me to go there on date that's so boring ! Why is it not a widespread agreement that coffee dates don't make sense? You wouldn't suggest going on a date to the supermarket, to clothes shop, to the bar or to go for a vape . These are things you might do with your friends and acquaintances.
It screams "meet me in a convenient place near my house and let me persuade you to sleep with me"