I realize that no one forum can be all things to all women, but I have to admit I'm a little disappointed to keep seeing phrases like "typical boomer" or "boomer issues" in FDS. At no point (at least that I've seen) has FDS been restricted only to women born after 1965 or whatever the cut-off is. I promise you, there are lots of women out in the world who need FDS just as much as a 20-something needs it -- just for slightly different reasons. It may seem like we "boomer women" are old enough that we should know better by now... and sometimes that's true... but other times, we're trying to shed decades of slow poisoning of societal misogyny. Some of us are already here on FDS. Others will find their way here, I hope.
And while, statistically, most baby-boom women are past the age of menopause, danger of pregnancy (or caution about reproducing with possible LVMs) is not the only reason we need to be careful vetters with the men we date. Lots of us are starting out again after disastrous divorces or other breakups, and the refresher course (or brand-new outlook) on FDS principles is like cool refreshing water on a miserably hot and humid day. Some of us have been through the wringer. Some of us are healing from decades of hardship, abuse, or just plain sexist shenanigans. Some of us had fulfilling relationships with stellar men who are no longer alive. Some of us are content to be single; others are ready to take a deep breath and dive back in, with the knowledge that this is a very different world from the one we first dated in.
But we're not off in some "senior citizen" bubble, either. Heck, most of us are probably still in the workforce. And we're not ignorant about online dating, etc. (Many of us were not only getting online in the pre-web days, but were computer-savvy when personal computers were still a glint in IBM's eye.)
And guess who we're sometimes dating? Other "boomers." Yep, the "dusty" older men who receive scorn from a lot of FDS'ers. OF COURSE they aren't meant for younger women (and obviously they shouldn't be hitting on them, and any man who does should be blocked and deleted) but they're not uniformly awful just because of their age. I mean, who would you have us date? Speaking from my personal experience, I have had relationships with both older and younger men (at various ages of my life) and, while I think age-gaps are important, I think another overlooked factor is what age you are when you're looking across the gap -- and what "generation" each of you are in. I know a lot of FDS women are in favor of dating younger men, but again, I think it depends on your own age/stage in life. Say what you will, there IS a difference between a man who grew up with readily-accessible porn vs. a man for whom porn use was still associated with a certain amount of society shame. I'm not saying that older men are 100 percent immune from scrote-like behavior -- no way. I know a few pornsick men who are solidly in the boomer category (older than me) that I won't touch with a ten-foot pole for obvious reasons. OTOH, I know several men (born in 1960 or earlier) who are genuinely shocked and sickened by what's going on. And it isn't just about porn or even just about sex. I am acquainted with too many younger men who don't seem to have any idea where they are in life (these are not college students; they are grown-ass men) and who just don't seem solid. A relationship with a man like that feels like building a house on shifting sands.
There are other inter-generational things that just don't seem to mesh, but I've probably gone on long enough about that. The only other point I want to make is that younger women can sometimes really, really benefit by opening their ears to the experience of older women. "There's nothing new under the sun" and sometimes you'd be shocked at what we've seen, what we've already been through.
Okay, I'll stop now before I start shaking my cane and yelling at clouds. :-)