I was in class, and I started chatting with the guy next to me over Word (we were typing jokes on our respective computers about the course together). That sounds all fair and square--but then he sexualized my joke.
I was typing smth about a joke I told someone else before today (as a joke): I was telling someone I wanted to go to the toilets today, and then when that someone replied "go!" I said "I'm not x (x being a famous historical woman who refused to be ordered and is featured in the class I study with the guy who then later sexualized my joke, the joke being that I refuse to be ordered)
Then after reading it the sexualizing guy typed on his computer the following thing: "well you know what they say, better in than out".
I immediately gave him a WTF look and typed WTF (and also explained the joke a bit to defuse it from the sexuality he attached to it) to which he started typing and saying things like "I got carried away", "I'm sorry" more and more as he saw I'm still not okay with it.
At the end of the lesson, he started telling me about how excited he is about the next lesson, to which I replied in an indifferent but polite manner (after he made that joke, I just couldn't look at him without feeling disgusted), and he caught on to that and started apologizing again. I could then voice what was bothering me, not his misunderstanding of the joke but his sexual interpretation of it and told him that it made me uncomfortable, to which he says he didn't mean, but his "I got carried away" stuck in my head as if he meant "us laughing at each other's joke made me fantasize (complete the sentence)".
Back in the past, I would usually ignore these things but I now refuse to ignore my feelings and be ok without what a guy says so as not to make a big deal out of this thing. That's not to say I would be emotional about something, but I allow myself to ignore or not be nice to someone when I feel that they deserve it, AND ACKNOWLEDGE it when I feel that way, in large part due to FDS as well.
I don't know this guy very well but I feel like I'm not gonna joke around with him anymore. He's not necessarily a scrote but I have let guys off the hook with this kind of thing way too often in the past and would feel a bit as if I was disrespecting myself if I were to be too friendly with him again (that's not to say I won't be nice). I just hate it that I might have to reconsider my words even when joking around with guys my age about something non-sexual in a completely platonic way. It's a shame I'll have to be indifferent to him from now on as it was nice joking in class till that moment. Yeah, guys suck.
What do you think about the story and my reaction? Would you have acted the same way? Do you have any advice on this issue? Should I only joke around with guys I know wouldn't be creepy around me?