So I was reading another post on FDS about finding men attractive or not. I have a general question for anyone who would like to engage.
I was in group environment a while ago when a woman brought up her discovery of the term "demisexual." Suddenly she had a way she related to her sexual feelings about men, and described what it meant. I resonated with the description, but I never thought to assign myself to the asexual spectrum. I simply thought this was how most women are.
My understanding of demisexuality is that you don't have sexual feelings the emotional connection is built. This is true for me. I can feel an attraction and warmth for someone without immediately wanting to jump into bed, though admittedly this happens very rarely. I think integrity and goodness are the most sexy traits available, and to sleep with someone I don't respect is icky. If I don't get to know them, how do I know if they are a good person?
I have a sex drive, and it's pretty high. I also find sex to be an important part of a relationship. That's why I don't consider myself on the asexual spectrum. As far as I see it, it's simply having high standards for who I want to sleep with.
I wonder if the baseline is man, and women who don't want to sleep with every individual with a pretty face or a nice arse are just regular women. But we ascribe them a label because the default human is of course male.
Or possibly I've just learned my lessons too well: become attached to men and bad things happen. Easier to stay out of it.
So I find myself wondering just how other ladies experience sexual attraction?