Did you all know that up to 80% of adults have HSV-1 Aka mouth herpes? The moment you let a man lay his lips on yours, you are exposing yourself to what could be a LIFELONG infection. Did you know that herpes can spread even if NO SYMPTOMS ARE VISIBLE?
Little peck seems okay right? WRONG. You are giving that man access to effecting your life and beauty FOREVER. Why should a man who is probably not going to be around forever be able to access and change your body and life like that? Sex is not the only dangerous activity you can do with a man and I think we need to start taking kissing as seriously as the consequences of kissing the wrong one can be. I know he's cute, I know it seems innocent, but it's NOT. We need to value ourselves more than our urges. Don't even share a straw with that man until you know what you want and who he is. Just because most people have it doesn't mean you should if it can be avoided.
What I would worry more about is H Pylori infection via kissing. This is FAR more dangerous, and it's something I am currently dealing with. 50% of the population has it. H. Pylori is the cause of stomach ulcers, gastritis , duodenitis, acid reflux, and is the main cause of stomach cancer as well. If you know someone with severe acid reflux he/she most likely has H Pylori infection. It is technically a bacteria but it acts like a parasite. It has spiral like flagella that burrow into the stomach lining causing the inflammation and destruction of the stomach lining. Highly infectious via saliva, not hand washing etc. And very hard to eradicate. I had a breath test, which tested positive. Then I had an endoscopy with biopsy, camera down the throat with a sample of my stomach lining, which confirmed the infection. I had it super bad. They put me on quadruple antibiotic therapy..I just finished that 2 weeks ago. I can't retest till 6 weeks post treatment so idk if I am cleared of the infection or not. I fear H Pylori far more than herpes. H Pylori can kill you via stomach cancer if not treated. Herpes won't kill you.
I'm seriously starting to wonder if I'm asexual after all these posts.
I have a libido, but - can't get attracted to any man if my life depended on it. If I do, it's extremely rare (i.e. 15 years between the last two men) and there's something obstructing their availability or they're the wrong religion.
I wish there was a 🤢 react
You realize that many of us have cold sores? I got cold sores from my mom. Ive probably passed it along to some dude. Actually, I probably haven't. Because even though cold sores are a life-long infection and can be transmitted even when no symptoms are visible, you mostly cant pass it along when you dont actively have a cold sore. My boyfriend of 9 years has never had one.
I've literally had 1 cold sore in the last 15 years. And it was tiny and didnt bother me at all. You couldnt even see it if I didnt point it out.
When I've gotten std panels, theyve come back as "slightly positive" for herpes 1. I didnt even know "slightly positive" for a virus was a thing, but it is.
I'm just saying, cold sores are no big deal and you shouldnt panic about it. Keep scrotes away from your face regardless. But if getting a pimple once every 15 years isnt the end of the world, then neither are cold sores.
Ps. Cold sores arent *a*ffecting my beauty. I'm gorgeous.
Unrelated to health but about kissing a forever man: I use to watch this influencer on YouTube and in one video she said that she and her husband waited until wedding day to have their first kiss. She said she wanted to weed non serious men out. Well, they waited and it turns out he had a bad porn addiction and had anger issues breaking furniture. there's just no reason to kiss a man tbh lol 😆
This issue has been the latest on my radar. I was lurking on reddit and saw many women with bacteria vaginosis and gardnella which many label as just "yeast infections" are actually STIs. Anyhow my thought process was , what happens when oral sex is involved with these STIs? Many women contracted the STI from their male partner for whom it does not usually present with symptoms. So, if you perform oral sex on him and/or have vaginal intercourse I would believe the bacteria can be transmitted both ways because both are mucosal tissue. I wouldn't wait for the CDC to confirm this years later.
I agree with a couple other comments in that many people (men, women, and children) have cold sores, and it's not a big deal. Ideally, nobody would have cold sores, but I haven't heard about cold sores ruining people's lives.
I agree with your general point about not engaging in physical touch with men you do not see a future with. Research studies mentioned in Wendy Walsh's "The 30-Day Love Detox" indicate that women can become emotionally attached to the wrong men just by touching them (even if the touching does not involve sex). Women can grow emotionally attached from something as seemingly casual as holding hands with a man.
I've found this to be true for myself and think more women (especially those living in libfem/Western societies, where premarital sex with multiple partners is encouraged) should be careful about allowing physical touch to occur between them and the men they are dating.
Edited to add: 100% agree OP! Kissing, even pecks, sharing food and drinks with men is a huge risk!! We do need to control our physical urges when it comes to men. also, men can be asymptomatic carriers of anything and not disclose anything to you and hurt your health/get you sick/or diagnosed with something that is lifelong. cold sores, kissing after throwing up, strep,...
I have an example of kissing a man that has affected my health and is another example to be prudent! I had a BF and I would constantly get strep throat from him but I wouldn't know what was happening/where it came from. He was an asymptomatic carrier so he didn't even know until he asked his mom who carried it (he asked after I got numerous strep throats).
I was on Constant antibiotics and steroids and doctor visits. The doctors told me it most likely is from him. By that time we weren't kissing or sharing foods for couple months. The infection happened three times and by that time my tonsils were inflamed and with chronic bacteria. I had to get an adult tonsillectomy cause of this dude. I let him know that he was the cause of the surgery and all my strep throats. Of course he downplayed it. He said his little 3 year old nephew got the surgery so it's not that bad. Adult tonsillectomy is WAYYY different dude. Anyways, more than a year later he says "yeah sorry" (we were broken up but I was angry one day and decided to text him WHICH I KNOW WAS WRONG!! Anyways, yup. Pain, money, lost time and a "yeah sorry",