I made a thread a few weeks ago about me and my fiancé breaking up, and followed the advice by cutting the cord with him. Since then I blocked him, went on holiday for a few days and he made a new account to contact me. I didn't want to end on bad terms and I suspected he would keep making new accounts, so I let him vent to me in the DMs and mostly ignored the messages. He was trying to prove how much he has changed and trying to convince me to change my mind, and also doing guilt trips. I eventually responded saying I'm sorry because I felt so guilty. He said he wanted to come visit me for my upcoming birthday and get gifts. He said he was sorry about a bunch of things. I was fortunately still done with him and was not willing to try again. I told him no to visiting, no to trying again, and he withdrew.
I'm mainly making this post to vent, and hopefully release some of the guilt I've been feeling because he literally blames me for his situation. He has casually said how he's going to be homeless in a year, how he's going to lose his job, he has had his fucking mother messaging me, he has suggested me to get a therapist "out of concern" because he does not think I should be "holding grudges" for the emotionally abusive things he has done over the years. He sent another message over night, saying he does not like who I am anymore and how he does not care about where I'm headed. Saying how I left his life in shambles. Asking if I used him for gifts then dumped him as soon as I got my own income (because I'm just a gold digging woman of course, its in my double X chromosomes!).
He says how he loved the "girl" who was there for him during hard times. I was there for him for emotional support every day for months (I got treated like shit in return but he left that part out, so it makes me slightly angry that he has the audacity to play victim).
I've felt happier than i have felt in months, years even, but i have been plagued with guilt that he has been putting on me. I feel sick because of it, cant sleep and hate eating. I feel bad for saying yes to the engagement and taking things so far but I can't help that my feelings for him basically evaporated and I told him his living situation is not my fault.
I will probably block him soon, although I did not want to end on bad terms. How do I get rid of this guilt I have? we were going to move in together and he paid a lot for flights to visit, and now he has to sort out a new living situation.
Here is part of his message so you can see what I am dealing with;
" I loved you, I lived for you, I sacrificed for you. Maybe that was too much for you to handle I'm not sure but I am sure you never appreciated it, very few people would have done what I did and it was treated like nothing the only thing that mattered were the things I did wrong. Those were the things you chose to hold on to and you seem to think that's healthy? "
"I know I said I would take you back if you ever changed your mind but I think I have to retract that. Because with how you've handled this whole thing it's clear now the person I fell in love with is gone and I don't like what's taken their place. They're simultaneously cold and naïve, I suggested therapy cuz I wanted what was best for you but you seem happy with your denial and I'm too busy fixing"