Hi, about 4 months ago I went on a fancy Italian dinner date with a guy (he paid ofc). He is well educated, tall, and also a software engineer like me. I thought the date went well and we talked about an article I had written for a political magazine on climate change. After the date was over I sent him the link to the article. He didn't respond for 4 months and then suddenly texted me a week ago with a meme that reminded him of me. 😑 I was thinking of just ignoring him but my therapist said that I should just use him to have fun, let him take me on nice dates around the city (I live in nyc). I really don't date at all and this is a busy time in my life as I'm applying for grad school (while having a full time job), so that is why my therapist suggested I have fun with him.
I'm not exactly looking for marriage among the men of nyc, so I figured I might as well respond and see what he does with it. We chatted sporadically here and there for about a week and then he suddenly asks "Do you want to meet me at X coffee shop? I want to catch up". To me this sounds really low effort especially after going to a nice restaurant for the first date. I have "dated" exactly 2 men before (including this guy) so I'm not really experienced at detecting men's BS (I am a virgin at 25). It seems like this guy isn't taking me very seriously so I'm not taking him very seriously either, but does he sound like a guy that could "take me to nice dates around the city"? Or is he being cheap?
I need the ladies of FDS to knock some sense into me because admittedly I was happy when he asked me out this time as I do find him attractive. I just want to protect my heart : (.