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Men Telling You You'll Max Out At Thirty is Their BIGGEST Cope.
We, as women, practice self-care in our appearance.
We take meticulous care of our skin, hair, and bodies. We are careful about what we eat and we exercise regularly. Most of us have had skincare routines since we were in middle school.
We have always managed to make time to take care of our appearance, even between our education, careers, and hobbies.
That being said, at thirty and beyond all that hard work pays off big time for us.
Males on the other hand?
The average thirty-year-old male already has a receding hair line. His face has begun to bloat from the excessive alcohol usage and poor diet.
A flat tire is already beginning to form around his mid-section. He has pre-mature wrinkles, sun damage, and uneven skin tone because he washes with Axe-3-In-1 Hair, Face, and Body Wash everyday and as never picked up a proper skincare product in his entire life.
Throw in the erectile dysfunction from excessive pornography consumption throughout his youth?
Voilà, there you have it folks.
The Male Wall.
Not only do men hit the wall, but they hit the wall hard and fast because they have done the absolute bare minimum to take care of themselves their entire lives.
The female "hitting-the-wall-at-thirty" propaganda, on the other hand, is an absolute myth. It's a lie they propagate to comfort themselves about being turned down by that twenty-something-year-old woman that is way too good for him.
"Someday she'll be thirty and no one will want her," he says to comfort himself.
We all know that's complete bullshit.
Men will pursue a woman at any age. We need only to look to the older women in our lives to confirm this.
The reason men who brigade this sub like regurgitate that false folklore is simple.
They are low-value males.
They feel threatened.
They are offended and angry that you have standards. (Especially standards they cannot meet.)
Males that propagate this myth want to grind you down. They want to make you afraid.
If you fear "maxing out" at thirty you're less likely to have high standards and present yourself as high-value woman. You'll be more anxious and insecure, and thus more likely to settle down (literally, settle) for a male that has nothing to offer.
Why? Because you fear approaching this mythical wall. Take a closer look at the context in which these men bring up this argument.
Example From a Previous Thread:
Woman discusses wanting men to pay for dinner.
Male gets offended and threatened.
Male tell her not to expect such treatment when she turns thirty.
Now let's dissect this interaction:
Women sets out an expectation/standard for men in her life.
Man reacts negatively because he is a low-value man who is threatened by a standard he cannot meet (monetary).
He attempts to make her insecure to lower her standards.
Keep in mind that the men who propagate this myth are low-value.
The type of men who brigade here (MGTOW, MensRights, Braincels) are low-value males.
They have little to offer women and thus prey on women with low self-worth. They pursue women who have low standards and little self-respect.
By implying that you will become worthless "post-wall", they are attempting to make you feel low-value. (If you feel low value, you're less likely to hold men to high standards.)
These men are both lazy and entitled. They feel they should be able to sack a woman without in any real effort or investment.
They don't want to have to prove they are worthy, likely because they are not.
Never abandon your standards, regardless of your age.
Now that we've broken down this myth, remember never to abandon your standards.
By internalizing this propaganda you will only put yourself at a disadvantage.
The moment you stop loving and respecting yourself (by seeing yourself as approaching or past the mythical wall), you become insecure, needy, and seek male validation. You don't want that!
You must always remember your worth. The wall does not exist. You are a high value woman who has a career, education, friends, hobbies, and you take care of your body.
Your value is not tied to a number. You are allowed to have standards always.
Real men respect and want women with standards, boundaries, and self-respect.