So I've met a HVM following all the FDS rules: he's initiated and planned all three of the very good dates, has been respectful, kind, polite. There is chemistry; I like him. We had our third date on Sunday, today is Wednesday and I have not heard from him. I thanked him and told him that I'd had a nice time at the end of the date, because I consider it good manners, so there is no ambiguity. He does not text much inbetween dates, but I like this because it does create a false sense of realtionship. He's intentional. This three days is the longest it's been without any communication. My GFS are all encouraging me to "ask him out for a change" and "message him first for once". One even said I was behaving like a "1950's housewife" by being so passive !!! I have not had to instigate a conversation or date with him so far. Looking for some strong support here....
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i know this situation can generate anxiety and your friends are not helping. don't second guess yourself and don't assume a man is HV after 3 good dates. there is much more to being HV than that. he could be testing you to see if you'll "give back" after these dates. thing is, all you can do is wait to see if he'll contact you. if he doesn't in a few days, it's over, move on. if he does, keep vetting.