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In real life, for me personally, I will not go with him on any trips unless he is my husband because stranger danger and all that. If he isn't my husband -- that means I haven't vet him thoroughly enough to allow him to marry me. So no, I don't trust him enough to go on trips with him.
But to answer this particular question -- let's say I do go on that trip with him, so the question is: what part of expenses should I paid for?
Honestly? Nothing.
I struggle with money, couldn't afford such luxury -- and somehow that led to me ended up being fully paid for by whoever's bringing me on the trip -- friends, workmates, teachers, professors, acquaintances. I told them already, repeatedly even, that I couldn't afford those trips so go on without me. But they all insisted and paid for everything.
And it is not like I can pay them back -- so I just thank them sincerely every time. And somehow that keeps happening -- I've never paid for any trips in my life expect the one for my family, once.
So... considering that the man in this question is COURTING me -- it never even cross my mind that I "should" pay certain expenses. Because:
- HE wants ME on this trip.
- HE wants ME to accompany him and enjoy this trip with him.
- HE wants to IMPRESS ME.
- HE wants to WIN my affection.
- HE wants me to reserve some of my time, energy, and attention for him.
So why would I be thinking about "paying" certain expenses? When he can choose NOT to ask me on that trip if he can't afford all of the expenses? Don't people get all the budget and nitty-gritty details planned and ready when they do these type of thing? Sorry I don't know much about trip stuff -- I am just along for the ride -- but the trip bringer usually have it all planned out.
Maybe this is just me -- but being fully paid for on trips is the only way I know -- so I really don't think in terms of "Oh I should pay this part of expenses" because why do I have to pay when HE is the one asking me on that trip? That's rude. Don't ask me out if that's how he wants to treat me, I'd rather stay home.
This is just me though, to each her own. Stay safe.
I just got back from a trip overseas to visit my boyfriend's family in his home country. I paid for nothing; he also gave me cash to have as spending money when we got there. Otherwise, he covered everything from airfare to hotels to travel expenses to every single meal and drink. He even paid when I bought souvenirs for friends and family. Never settle for a man who just wants a traveling companion. You can have those adventures with your best girlfriends, with no expectations of sex along the way.
Do not let men treat you like one of their guy friends, or a roommate, or a long-lost colleague they met by chance in a foreign train station. You do not pay to give a man the pleasure of your beautiful company. He covers your costs, or you don't go. No exceptions. Otherwise, you are setting a standard that will follow you for the rest of your relationship. Don't do it.