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This is the type pf content proliferated by hypergamous Pick Me accounts whose only standard for “High Value” is money. The entire point of FDS is vetting against such low value men who need their egos coddled with such performative low brow “feminine” antics. This approach may get you rich abusers, or even more likely, garden variety poor/middle class scrotes. HV men are impressed by impressive women. This type of drivel will sink into you psyche with repeated exposure.
I second this . Even if a young woman thinks she is equipped with all this hypergamous teaching nothing can prepare her for manipulation from older men who have seen this game played it over and over again . If he is intimidated by your career rather being happy that's a bloody siren 🚨 not even red flag . 🙄 🤦🏻♀️
Is worth noting Shera seems to focus on "finessing" older men out of money and maybe into a marriage, if it is 95% to your benefit over his. If you're in "it" for "the game," the advice makes sense. I think most of us want more than a nice car, business loan, or old, rich husband to ignore, so we do the opposite. In context, she makes sense. I'm just not a fit for said context. She does say quite a few FDS-like things in other topics in her videos going back a few years.
Oh yeah, don’t get me wrong, I do love her other stuff, it’s just the dumbing down and going for older men thing. As per her motive, she’s doing superb. As much as I wanna finesse older men outta their money, I just couldn’t deal w looking at sagging skin and beer bellies.
I'm not going to lie about my job or career. I don't volunteer details but I'm not going to straight up pretend I do something else. If he has a problem with it it's better to know early on. Scrotes reveal themselves really fast.
My fear is not his problem with it, but that he will try to dupe or pressure me into 50-50, or even me 100, him 0, with manipulation and other abuse. I also got so many dusties and gold diggers when I would say my real profession.
In any case, I don’t make much, so if he is a provider, and gets that life is dangerous for women, he won’t have a problem with me telling him the real job later.
This. I ONLY talk about the day job as my main source of income, and I seriously downplay the 'side hustle' as more of a hobby/freelance situation (lol, it's not). He's got no business knowing just how much I make for the reasons you stated.
Also why it's important to not be flashy with the wealth we do have. I flat out refuse to drive my vette on dates. I show up in my dirty dusty work truck or my old jeep, let him think that's my only vehicle (and that I spend most of my time working to make the payment so I'm not so readily available to him .....)
Eh well if he shows his true colors after learning my field of work then that counts as a successful vetting strat (imo). Even the broke dusties who leech will eventually out themselves, you just have to be up on game. I keep it straight to the point (career/job title) with no other information. I absolutely refuse to dim my light or be "humble" in order to soothe his ego.
As a retired teacher, I absolutely tell them what I do. They’re cool, not a problem. Excessive praise about “everything teachers put up with” I ask him to explain: invariably he was a shit student and is projecting and feels guilty. Block and delete. If he outright brags about being a shit, block and delete and ghost hard. One of the many ways I knew I loved Jack, late husband was that he was an English professor and had ultimate respect for me as a K-12 teacher who laid the groundwork for his older students.
That is a good vetting strategy. Instant block if they fetishize you immediatley.
It’s not emasculating, they are emasculated. I 100% believe I am not intimidating, only scrotes are intimidated.
I didn’t advertise my successes when I was single but I certainly never denied them.
This is pick me propaganda masquerading as real advice. It's better if the trash takes itself out sooner than later.
I do like their posts, but I do question some of them.
Yeah I've seen u post them here b4, I hope this is just a one off for them
Unfortunately, most men do act like this. A woman who’s an engineer, Doctor, or lawyer will be seen as competition by the male and won’t be treated with the same love and acceptance as a receptionist would be. He’ll feel “needed” by the receptionist and not the doctor. But the sinister side of this is that the real reason he’d prefer a receptionist is so that he has more control over her. A woman who’s making really good money doesn’t “need” a man I.e. she’s not going to be dependent and will have the resources to leave him. So he figures why put in effort with a woman I won’t be able to control and act any old way with? I try not to tell men what I do for a living, as it immediately turns them off. I also try not to talk about having been in the Army. I can’t really change how men think and feel, but I can give myself a chance for them to get to know me as a woman before they find out that I’m accomplished.
I have to say though, there are receptionists/admin assistants who do make a good salary depending on the industry the company is in.
It’s easier to see how a man really thinks and acts when you pretend to be lesser than him. You know how people interact with the world by how they treat the weak. It’s simply a tactic to get him to reveal himself sooner by me seeming like I’m not a threat. You can obviously do whatever you want and admit to all that you’ve accomplished, but I’ve done that before and gotten burnt.
Yeah, it's more like when you hear the words assistant/receptionist, you wouldn't be intimidated by their intelligence like a man who's less educated would feel toward a phd holder.
I honestly feel you cant win with insecure guys
My experience (as someone with a "high power" job):
If you're more educated than then, they feel emasculated
If they have the same level of education as you, they compete with you and neg you
Either way they make you feel bad about your accomplishments
Thats their problem
Yes, it’s true, I get a lot of dusties when I say I’m a lawyer. But none of that when I say I’m admin.
Never give a man specific details about your job. Keep it vague, vague, vague. This is to protect against stalkers in the early stages of dating. If you are a nurse, say you work in Healthcare. If you tell the truth, the next Q can be "what hospital, what department" and the next thing you know Pete the Creep is lurking around when you knock off
since I make enough to spoil myself sometimes and can buy my own nice dinners, the appropriate reaction for them would be to want to improve upon that. otherwise they aren’t bringing enough to the table. That’s why I would not want to have a relationship with someone who makes less than I Do.
What happens when I want to take a nice trip and they can’t afford to take me? I either have to pay for him to come along or just not bring him along and then he will resent me for spending my hard earned money on him. lose-lose
No. It's not.
Ladies, if you are a doctor you can still get that man. Priscilla Chan, pediatrician, did not dumb herself down!
Thanks!!! I'll read about her 😁😆. Usually when I tell them my profession they come up with " wish you were my doctor " 😅🤣
Too bad dusties cast a wide net and try to catch whatever's out there; from high earners to those just making minimum wage to the student to the unemployed... if it's a woman, he'll try his damn best to finesse a penny out of her. It's really just so gross.