The next time you go on dates with a man, observe him and consider:
If you both got mugged on the streets, what will he do? Will he try his best to shield you from harm - or run away and leave you alone?
If his friends start harassing you and joking about assaulting you, what will he do? Will he stand up for you and immediately cut ties with them - or just keep quiet and later blaming you for being "too sensitive, they are just joking!"
If a gangster-looking stranger start catcalling or worse, slap your ass while you are at the gas station with him, what will he do? Will he brave the danger and give a warning to the stranger - or just pretend not to know you in that moment?
If you feet get stuck at the escalator, bleeding everywhere and probably lost your toe, what will he do? Will he jump into action trying to stop the bleeding while calming you down and ask someone to call 911 - or will he just freeze there like a dumbass until some other good samaritan jumps in and saves you?
If you say you have the night shift and will be walking back alone at 4 am, while he has an early morning work, what will he do? Will he chug the redbull and wait until your shift is done to send you home - or say "Well take care" and that's that?
I believe when it comes to your standards in men, there are a few crucial standards that just have to be there, otherwise you have no use for a man. And one of them is PROTECTIVE INSTINCT. Because that's the most basic role of men in society - to protect. Protect their community, protect their country, protect their land, protect their family unit - protect you.
When he sees you in pain, what will he do? Will he get concerned and immediately try to make that pain goes away because he just can't bear to see you in pain? Or will he get annoyed and says you are just being "overdramatic"?
Or when you do those haunted-house dates - does he have the instict to act like a shield for you and leading the way - or are you the one in front dragging his stupid ass, or worse got left behind in the chaos? (Because I've experienced and saw too many men just straight up push the women and run away on his own. It is fine to be afraid, but damn imagine how they will be in actual danger)
I worked in retail and can't believe just how many heavily pregnant women carrying all the heavy groceries (and paying), while their so-called "husband" is outside, fiddling their stupid thumbs and being annoyed with their "slow" wives.
And so, so many teenage couples where the guys' friends are making fun of the girlfriend in front of her face, and the boyfriend just laughs along. Because bros before hoes right? Then get heartbroken till the next f**king century when the girlfriend had enough and call it quits.
Yes, perhaps he is a great conversationalist, understand you in ways your exes never did, don't cheat on you, is gorgeous and have lots of money etc2 - but being a coward means you can never, ever trust him. Because the instant he feels threatened, he will immediately gives up anything he can to ensure his own safety and comfort - and most of the times, that means you.
If you can't first and foremost TRUST him with your safety - you really can't trust him at all. And no relationship can survive without trust. Stay safe, ladies.