Another post here today made me come to the realisation that men claim to want certain traits in women, but their actions say otherwise.
For example, many men say they don't like "needy" or "clingy" women, yet the women I've noticed get most attention in relationships are quite emotionally demanding. Possibly so he can feel like a saviour. When men do date the more strong or independent types, they often do everything in their power to make her feel more insecure or dependent on him. He doesn't appreciate her resilience.
Men say they want a loving, caring woman. In my own dating experience, I've found men react poorly to you being too nice or generous with them. They have treated me much better when I've held back on even basic decency, really.
Men claim they want a woman who is sexual and confident in bed. As a woman with a strong sex drive I've noticed it has the exact opposite effect on men. They think you have poor self esteem if you are "too" sexual with them, they might consider you masculine or even have disgust towards you.
Most are also frustrated when directed in bed in even the most basic of ways, despite saying they want a woman who "knows what she wants". Again, the women who get the most romantic attention from men are the ones who don't have sex for months, have lower sexual energy, or are simply NOT attracted to them (🤡). Then these are the same men who complain down the line that their wife won't sleep with them.
These are the things that came to mind, but has anyone else noticed that their words just don't align with their actions?