STOP NORMALIZING PEOPLE IGNORING YOU.
But first, it depends on context. For platonic relationships, if it is someone who has established a pattern of goodwill and consistency with you, then yes, they might be busy or overwhelmed so don’t take it personally. But this never applies to a man you are having sex with. He needs to be responsive to you. (Obvi here at FDS we don’t blow up men’s phones for nothing but consistency is a bare minimum standard.)
But if you do not know them well or you struggle with self- esteem and people pleasing, block them or just wait for them to contact you.
When they DO contact you, notice if they want something (like a listening ear, they are lonely, validation or a favor). This is what I have noticed about 90% of the time. People will leave me on read but get incredibly attentive/responsive when they need something from me. People like this are treating you like a convenience/ego booster and you are not “too sensitive” if it makes you feel badly.
My self- esteem and self- worth skyrocketed when I began to STOP giving the benefit of the doubt and acknowledged that I am not okay with this behavior (which has been normalized) and that people like this are incapable of being good friends to me.
This message is NOT for everyone. It is only for those of you who have been told that you are “too sensitive”, that people “are busy” or to “not read into things”.
I want to validate you because I AM “too sensitive” 🤣 and people ARE busy AND people make time for what is important to them. If people communicate early on that they think it’s okay to not be responsive to you, drop them. This behavior does NOT get better. STOP NORMALIZING PEOPLE IGNORING YOU.
When you are a “too sensitive” person the solution is not to desensitize yourself but to become VERY picky about who you engage with.
Instead of reaching out to people who are never proactive about you, channel that energy into yourself or into new relationships.😘
With men on OLD, I recognize that all strangers can be casually dumped at will for any reason, really anyone within the first day, week, month of getting to know someone. That’s vetting. I set an arbitrary time of about two days for a man to send the first message during the holidays because we are all busy, 24 hours any other time. Time is up and no message, block and delete and no loss. Frees up my time and I won’t fall back into pick me ways of waiting and hoping for a crumb of attention.
Thanks i needed this 😔✨️
You are right ! This post is spot on . Also I feel A lot of ppl especially me in the past would talk myself out of blocking them and still entertaining them coz I felt lonely in life . It’s a very dangerous situation for some of us coz sometimes you not thinking clearly and wud not guard your boundaries and crave compassionship. After inner work I would never ever abandon my feelings and boundaries it’s an automatic block and delete .
I had an appointment yesterday for which I had to travel a couple hours and my partner called before and afterwards to check in – just what you would expect from a caring friend or partner. This is
the treatment we should expect as a baseline. Not just responding, but ACTIVE communication.
I agree, and I'm trying to implement this, but it can be hard with how prevalent it is. It's so weird that expecting some level of predictability in communication or acknowledgement of you trying to engage with them is now seen as "too needy" or "too sensitive". When was it ever a pleasant thing to have your bid for connection be ignored? That doesn't seem to me how humans work. And trying to force yourself to go along with these new rules will just make you feel disconnected to your supposed friends, because in reality you never fully trust that they really value you and want to engage with you.
Woah this just happened to me 2 days ago!
This is kinda embarrassing but I've learned better now,
Previously asked him where was this this going and he blocked me, only to return a whole month later to say he's sorry for wasting my time and it was his fault, the usual, its me not you message,
I left him on read and blocked him on everything
💯 because how they treat you is how they really feel about you. “I’ve been busy…” etc is an automatic block & delete for me. It truly is that simple. We just have a hard time acknowledging when the person doesn’t like us but wants to keep us around to use us as Plan C, D, E…
Too sensitive = actually having normal feelings and feeling them.
It's a compliment 🥰