Ladies, stop caring about what’s “fair” when it comes to men. But…. but men paying for dates is so unfair, we need to go 50/50!!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 No.
While you’re worrying about what’s “fair” for him, he literally doesn’t give a flying fuck about what's fair for you. He’s busy thinking (or not thinking at all, this behavior comes effortlessly to them) about what is easiest, most convenient for HIM. He’s thinking: what will benefit ME the most? The only time they bring up fairness is to gain advantage for THEMSELVES. When he’s asks you to go 50/50, he’s internally thinking how can I save money for MYSELF, while whining about fairness to you. Meanwhile, he’s skiving off on the household chores. Perfect 50/50 does not exist, but the only place he’s gonna insist on it is paying for dates because it benefits HIM. You bet that conscientiousness about “fairness” is gonna disappear when it comes to household chores. 🤡🤡🤡🤡 So you see, it’s not about “fairness” at all!
About 91 % of women with children spend at least an hour per day on housework, compared with 30% of men with children.
95 percent of heterosexual men reported they usually or always orgasmed during sex, compared to 65 percent of heterosexual women (doubtful, it's probably lower😬😬😬), who were the least likely.
I could go on.
Clearly men don’t give a flying fuck about fairness. So it’s time you stopped too.
And lemme tell you ladies, this isn’t just a problem with individual selfish men, this is a problem about men as a class. Males have been waging war against women with no compunctions about fairness AT ALL. They have attempted to stack the decks in their favor since the beginning of human society (no votes and bank accounts for women, but sure let’s tax them!), and that is why they created the patriarchy which women still live under today.
Ladies, we live in an unfair society where male interest is consistently prioritized over women’s welfare. All men benefit from this system, even HVM. LVM will try to further entrench their patriarchal privilege by hoodwinking you into further disadvantaging yourself under the guise of “fairness”. HVM will not press you into doing so. THAT’s the difference between HV and LV men. In this unfair society, it is absolutely essential to prioritize female interest unapologetically.
So let’s retire the arguments about 50/50 that goes “oh you see ladies have to spend more money on nails and hair and yadda yadda yadda to doll up for men, that’s why 50/50 is unfair!”. No, I don’t care. We don’t have to justify a guy paying for our dates with “fairness”. He pays because he wants to, no gun to his head. That’s it. This applies to everything, not just 50/50.
Talking about “fairness” when LVM were never interested in “fairness” anyway is just pure clownery. Trying to cut an even deck while men are happily taking cards from your deck to add to theirs is the no. 1 way to play the fool. Men are playing to win. When women play to draw, guess who wins? Duh.
Instead ladies, think about fairness in relation to women. Think about how you are treating the HVW in your lives. Are you reciprocating their efforts and investing in your relationship with them? Are you treating HVW fairly and sincerely? Let’s give our time and energy to HVW.
So stop worrying about being “fair” to men and here’s to building sisterhood and tearing down the patriarchy! 👑💁🏻♀️
Note: With regards to this argument (ladies have to spend more money on nails etc), I would encourage you ladies to NOT spend that money. Instead, save that money and invest it into levelling up (education, investments and property). It seems absurd to me to spend an unreasonable and dispproportionate amount of time and money on a guy/date, when most of them are disappointing. In fact, the patriarchy wants you to do that so you get held back while the guys race ahead. Sure, let's look attractive and presentable, but that's it. He's the interviewee and you're vetting him. Stop spending money on guys and start levelling up.