HVM won't give you the "butterfly in the stomach" feeling you are so looking forward to. They are "boring" and perhaps you will even hate some of them because they trigger you.
This is one thing that a lot of people struggle with because we live in a society that celebrates toxicity and values narcissism. Contrary to what the media tries to convince us - being charming, suave, "exciting", butterflies in the stomach, hot and cold, screaming match under the storm, hot blooded fights then equally hot blooded make up - all of those are NOT "love". Or what a relationship should look like - they aren't healthy in any way, shape or form.
Healthy minded people with high value qualities often look "boring" if we still have toxic mindset because instead of daily theatrics, high value people value peace, stability and tranquility. They are calm and efficient, they focus on effective solutions after a period of destressing. They have quiet confidence, great self-discipline, non-nonsense attitude, minding their own business if there's nothing that requires their attention, and will not make or accept excuses. They are the calm, reliable leader that will not accept bullsh*t excuses.
Sounds great right? But this type is commonly disliked in real life because as I said earlier, our very society are toxic. Calm and confident people are seen as "being too full of themselves, who do they think they are? They need to be taken down a peg!" - all because they trigger internal shame in toxic people just by existing.
So specifically speaking as women viewing high value men - if we are still dealing with internal toxicity - we won't "see" them as attractive. We will either despise them without knowing why (aka triggered by internal shame) or see them as "boring". It is like, when you enjoy chaos and drama and look forward to fights as the highlight of your day, you will be bored by a person who settles thing quickly and resume a peaceful life, that sort of feeling.
That's why FDS emphasizes so much taking the time to be alone and learning to elevate yourself to become a HVW first before dating - because that's the only way you can finally "see" HVM and actually be in a healthy relationship. You need to learn how to be comfortable with calmness, peacefulness, tranquility, stability, security, efficient lifestyle. You need to learn how to be comfortable with your emotions being stable and quiet all the times, day in day out.
It sounds great and doable when you read it -- but a lot of you will struggle because when you are used to the "exciting" high-and-lows of emotional rollercoaster -- peace is "boring". Peaceful men is "boring". Not verbally fighting and wanting to tear off each other's head on a daily basis is "boring". You start yearning for all that old "excitement" and start seeing all these other, much more "exciting" men (who are in reality, a walking red flag).
You will sabotage your own happiness.
Start by levelling up and healing yourself. Stay safe.
P/S: It is "boring", not boring in the literal sense. Try to understand what the hell you are reading before commenting -- otherwise expect to be deleted. I am not dealing with bullsh*t from here on out.