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If they even exist.
This may not work for everyone, but these are some of my personal filters:
Well lit photos outdoors
Clear, nor blurry photos that seem recent
Smiling in photos (not the same creepy brooding expression in every photo)
Definitely not the "My height since it matters" - (they clearly know it matters, and are intentionally obtuse)
Not too long, not too short write up, devoid of emoji sentences like this 🍻🍷🍰👯♂️
Attention to grammar
In clean, decent clothing
Mention of goals, hobbies
No pictures of fish, snowboarding (nothing wrong with either of these activities, but it seems like they are on there to attract other men when they put this on? And so many have both of these photos)
Grammar and spelling are so important! One guy used awful syntax and spelling and then, when I restricted him, asked if I was "snubby."
Yeah we "snub" our noses at poor grammar and LVM 😂
My boyfriend’s profile didn’t say travel, it said a niche type of travel. It didn’t say he liked to write, it said what he wrote. In a sea of vague, his stood out. He put his real height with no comment (he’s short). He answered the prompts with thoughtful but short answers with perfect grammar.
I wouldn’t say it was a great profile. It was that the others were so bad that I was about to give up on OLD. Where the green flags emerged was his messages that showed he read my profile and he took an interest in getting to know me. After our first date he made it clear that he was interested in me.
A very good start. I love specificity!
Upon seeing @Bathsheba's concise post, I'll give my two cents. The man I am dating had fun and clever aliterration and word play, that briefly glossed over his career, height and hobbies. His profile stood out, but he had a pretty bad collection of photos (one skiing, blurry and one outdoors, bad angled and blurry) one that almost had me pass over him. His saving grace was one photo that was clear of him, well dressed and giving a speech at what was clearly a wedding.
At this point I was having fun having a scrotation, but flustered at everyone dropping the ball at one thing or another when I met him.
He was quick to message after matching, and showed an interest in getting to know me, but didn't take too long before showing an interest on taking me on a date. He aced the phone interview, was charming and fun on our dates together thereafter, and we are happily dating now.
Hey @WhySheLychee how did you go with this OLD experiment?
Men with shirts ON
No mention of "this is my height since it matters"
Pictures with a dog
States the qualities in a mate that he admires instead of what he doesn't (I'm totally guilty of this)
Pictures out in nature (with him in them, not just random nature scapes)
I saw one where the guy had 5'5"...nope. I'm 5'4".
Anything with a doggie I 😍.
Details about personality, hobbies
Thought put into the profile (I see a lot of random facts about people especially on Hinge, and you can tell the person hasn't thought about the things a future partner might actually care about)
Expectations for the relationship
Some type of long-term goals, not just "seeing what happens"
An actual picture of his face not half a face, not backlit, not cut off at the chin;
A write-up of his qualities/characteristics;
What he’s looking for (not everything from casual to long-term, make a choice)
An effort to connect within a few days time by phone first