Inspired by the FDS podcast #61 that a Queen referenced lately got me thinking about this .
A guy I've been on two dates with (and, frankly am not excited about) called me at 1am last week on Thursday when he was clearly out and pissed. He's off work at the moment (that could be a whole separate thread) and THANK GOD my phone is set to 'do not disturb' past 10pm.
Ladies, my ick-o meter went into overdrive. He apologised but my responses have since been clipped and dismissive and I'm leaning towards doing a block and delete.
Anyway, I started wondering 'is this a boundary or a standard violation?' Which is when I realised I wasn't very good at differentiating between the two. This was a standard in my book and the above podcast actually referred to 'no calls at stupid times' as one of their standards given then these obviously lean into booty/NVM territory.
So, queens. What are your top personal boundaries and standards when it comes to dating - online or otherwise - in addition to some of the obvious red flags we could all reel off?