Hey all - I'm going through a breakup and reflecting on what I bring to the table and what a HVM could bring to the table, and I'm struggling to see where even a HVM is likely to contribute.
I'm educated (Ivy league), professionally successful, own my place, have traveled extensively, healthy, have a good friend network (although many of my close friends have moved out of my local area and are now stops on trips I'll take during the year). I'm creative and have a ton of passions (I play the piano, cook, speak Italian, have a deep knowledge of high-end restaurants, fashion, interior design) and am extremely caring and perceptive.
The area that I struggle more is with loneliness or some of the more basic self-care. I was diagnosed with ADHD during the pandemic and have realized how much it has contributed to a lot of the disorganization around the house or inability to maintain a consistent sleep or exercise schedule; since medicating, this has improved 100x, but I still have days where I backslide.
I've always had this dream of finding a life partner (man) who can be my best friend and support me when I'm having self doubt or feeling emotional, but my pragmatic side and a lot of what I've taken away from FDS is that the man should be the provider financially (because they earn more) and offer a shallower level of companionship or emotional support (because they are less trustworthy and loyal), and I don't think that's what I really need.
Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have a partner who can double or triple the household income and be a solid companion emotionally, intellectually, physically, but given where the bar is today, I feel a lot of doubt I will ever find this person; maybe I'll find someone who earns similarly and has some of the qualities I'm looking for (intelligent, well-read, attractive, adventurous, healthy, high EQ), but I'm losing hope that this exists.
Are there any success stories out there that can brighten my day? Or am I deep in break-up heartbreak and just need to chill for a while? TIA for the advice/support.